have to say good-bye :(

[HallFamilyFarm]

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Very wise advise. Staying just for the kids is not good. I stayed in a bad marriage and then she left, took the kids. It took two years, but the truth came out and now I have sole custody. The kids prayed for a new mother and we have the nicest new family. My wife is adopting the children. Consider marriage counseling. Get involved in achurch. Find a support group. There is help. We will keep you in our prayers.

Oh, DO NOT SEARCH FOR ANYTHING IN THIS CATIGORY ON YOUR HOME COMPUTER. Use the Delete Browsing History function. If he is controling, he may be watching what you search. Call the National (800/799-7233) or local domestic violence helpline.

Here is our story: http://www.hallcase.bravehost.com

 

[HallFamilyFarm]

To be honest, and for her protection, this thread should be deleted. She should not mention any of this, including her inheritance online. If he is that controling, he may be reading all we have suggested.

 

[adoptedbyachicken]

Something to consider, in all struggles like this where people have posted for support in difficult times often too many details are given. While we have a great supportive family here posting such as are on this thread are not a good idea on the internet. They have come back to bite a few people when found by the others involved. Know alos that even if deleted there are some engines on the internet that provide image service that retain content from websites even after it's long gone.

No one needs even a membership to BYC to read this. If the OP wants this thread removed all they have to do is ask, use the report button. For those that posted their own stories the edit button will help you remove it. If it has been quoted later in the thread use the report button on that post.

 

[Keene's coop]

I'M STILL HERE!!

he's not as bad as everyone may think he is and i'm sorry if i have made you all think that. he has never hit me nor called me names. he thinks that since he is the money maker, he should have all control with money, and other finances. he tells me all the time that he's broke, but he's not. i see what's in his checking and savings, far from being broke. that's how he is controlling. he was raised to be in control, his father was raised that way and so was his grandfather. so it's a learned behavior. and who cares if he reads this cuz i've said these things to his face and maybe if he reads this, he'll get the hint. he has been a drunk for years. but now he has been sober for 1 month. he still has not told me why he quit drinking, but i'm happy that he did. maybe things will start to slowly get better. so now that he has been sober, we are taking one day at a time. maybe things will change for the better. we'll have to see.

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE SUPPORT. it feels good to be able to talk about it with people who don't know us. THANK YOU. i'll update in a week or so. hugs to all of you

 

[fordmommy]

You're still welcome to come to the Meet-n-Greet this June even if he does get rid of the internet! Put it on your calender.

 

[sfw2]

Glad you're still with us! Hope things improve for you.

 

[Three Cedars Silkies]

Thanks so much for the update! Hang in there. I'll be praying for him to stay sober...one day at a time....

 

[Keene's coop]

UPDATE got the babysitting job

so i'm staying. and i think i am going to that meet and greet in waupaca. have family there. so hopefully. so now that i am babysitting, i can stay

and for those of you who are worried about him reading this, don't worry, i tell him the same things i've told all of you guys. if he reads this, maybe he'll get the hint. besides, it's nothing he hasn't already heard from me. so here is a BIG FAT THANK YOU to all of you. i guess i just really needed to tell a stranger about what i'm going through. it kinda made feel better and it helps to know that i'm not alone. and as for my husband, he's been sober for 1 month and 6 days. hopefully with him being sober, things will be back to the way they used to be. baby steps. and again a big

THANK YOU

 

[CrazyFowlFreak]

YAY!!! Awesome that you got the job! I'm so proud of you

A pat on the back to DH for having 36 days under his belt! Find an AA meeting in your area for DH to go to. They really do help. If he won't go, you should go to Alanon meetings. They help tremendously, trust me, I know

As for you not being able to take care of yourself and the kids, you can get assistance in the form of rent money, food stamps, help paying utility bills, etc. You do not have to stay with him if you choose not to. I was married once before this marriage and I stayed with an emotionally abusive a-hole and physically abusive and a cheater, for my child. I finally realized that no child should have to watch (whether you realize it or not-they know what's going on) their Mama being treated as less than her husband. You got a job, you are on the road to being self-sufficient. Keep on keeping on. Be strong, you CAN do it, if not for you, for the kiddos. I will be thinking of you and rooting for you. YOU GO GIRL!!!!

 

[sfw2]

That's great news about the job!

I know how great it feels to have your "own" money.

Glad to hear about your husband's sobriety, too. That can only help.

Good luck, and keep us posted!