have to say good-bye :(

[pardenx3]

We are ALWAYS here for you, don't forget that! Best of luck to you!!!!!!

 

[SC_Hugh]

Keene's coop :

you guys are great

i just went on craigs list and responded to some babysiting ads. i've been putting it off. i took all the classes i need to becomes a licensed daycare provider. i'm gonna try to put it to use. then i will pay the bill and my husband can kiss my a@*. wish me luck

Stay in touch, the BYC people are some of the nicest people on the internet, I personally do not know many (maybe 3-4 people locally, that I see once a year), but everyone here is here to learn and support each other.

Your local library should have newer computers with super fast internet, check your email and BYC and your other favorites sites once or twice a week or at least once a month.

Work around your husband, some guys are impossible to change, keep putting your kids first, ours are 15 (Gabriel), 18 (Keenan) and 21 (Natalie) and still happily married after 22 years.

All good,

Hugh in CA.​

 

[Three Cedars Silkies]

Keene's coop :

you guys are great

i just went on craigs list and responded to some babysiting ads. i've been putting it off. i took all the classes i need to becomes a licenced daycare provider. i'm gonna try to put it to use. then i will pay the bill and my husband can kiss my a@*. wish me luck

Now THAT's what I'm talking about!!!!

 

[kipoley]

Keene's coop :

you guys are great

i just went on craigs list and responded to some babysiting ads. i've been putting it off. i took all the classes i need to becomes a licenced daycare provider. i'm gonna try to put it to use. then i will pay the bill and my husband can kiss my a@*. wish me luck

Good for you! The kids will learn more by example than words. We learn what is acceptable by what our parents tolerate. I wish no one to ever marry unhappy. We all mistakes, it's the actions we take to correct them that really count.
Kimberly​

 

[pardenx3]

Quote:
Good for you! The kids will learn more by example than words. We learn what is acceptable by what our parents tolerate. I wish no one to ever marry unhappy. We all mistakes, it's the actions we take to correct them that really count.
Kimberly

That was very well said!

 

[silverbird]

Quote:
Good for you! The kids will learn more by example than words. We learn what is acceptable by what our parents tolerate. I wish no one to ever marry unhappy. We all mistakes, it's the actions we take to correct them that really count.
Kimberly

That was very well said!

ditto...you go girl

 

[Keene's coop]

i don't know how to change my title to say update, but here is one. i have a family comming in today at 1pm. scrubbed down house all weekend. i'm a little nervous. haven't been interveiwed in 9 years. my stomach has butterflies. i'll give an update again when they leave.

again THANK YOU EVERYONE!! YOU ARE ALL WONDERFUL!!!

 

[ijon1]

It seems if your internet is half way fast they make you pay dearly for it.

 

[schellie69]

I understand where you are at I was there 21 years ago, but I took my kids and left I did what i had to do for them I knew that things were only going to get worse from where they were, I worry you mentioned an inhertaince i know that here if you are married the spouse can get half of everything community property I would talk with a lawyer to make sure and remember your kids are learning something from you husband so know that also. a 15 year old computer will not go very fast on the internet you need to up grade your computer check craigslist there are people who have to buy the newest computer out there. and they sell the old ones cheap so keep an eye out I got my computer through our interenet provider if I agreed to a one year contact I got to keep the computer for free just something to think about. good idea about getting your own income just remember to hide some away incase make an escape plan if you need to leave in a hurry like put social secuity cards birth certificates and such in a place where you can get to them fast and make sure to line up a place to stay if you need a friend family something I know it is hard but you can do it I did and I am sure i made the right choice I meet a man and have been married for 16 years now he adopted my kids and then we adopted one togeather so there is someone out there that will treat you right. try explaining that its not the internet its the computer I am not sure of the ages on your children but you can tell him the kids need the interenet for school work I know mine had to have an internet source for there research projects and the teachers would assign different web-sites that they had to check out for home work. just a thought about telling him the kids need it might work if he thinks they do. please check in and at least let us know how you are doing. I know i will be watching for updates

 

[Keene's coop]

i did talk to a divorse lawyer. and they said as long as his name is not on the account, which it is not, he does not get a penny of it. no matter what. he can fight all he wants, he can't touch it. he's gonna be very peed off when i get it cuz it's a huge amount. it'll make for a nice divorse, buy a house, and buy a reliable car. as for abuse, he's never hit me, never calls me names, at least to my face. he's a controll freak. it's his way or no way. it drives him crazy that i don't do things his way, and i purposely don't do it his way. we don't fight that much, but when we do, we make sure the kids are not around. so they don't see anything. i'm not afraid of my husband, i just can't stand being with him. i just got to stick it out a few more years for when i get my inheritance. which i can do. it helps to have close friends and family. if i didn't have that, my life would be alot worse. so i'm doing pretty good, minus the husband part.