He Loves Me He Loves Me Not

[THough1956]

I have been married to my husband for 15 years now. He is not very expressive and does not tell me often that he loves me. I think the sun rises and sets in him!! Sometimes I really let this get me down and wonder how he really feels. This weekend I think I have figured it out. He spent the entire weekend adding on to my chicken house and lots in the hot sun and humidity, even though he really does not care for them! And he already works two jobs . He also buys me my favorite Bryers Ice Cream. So I think actions really do speak louder than words and he must love me lots!!!!

 

[Southern Chickens]

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's you!!! You are a lucky woman! So am I!!

 

[Bec]

My DH is kind of the same way, but he tells me he loves me everyday. However, he doesn't put it out there whenever..usually when we are saying goodbye on the phone or if he or I are going anywhere. I often wondered the same thing...How does he really feel??
But just as you said, it is the actions that SCREAM louder than words! It took me a while to sit back and see this. One I did and took notice of all the little things he does just to make me happy, the wondering stopped. I knew.

For example, this past weekend I told him that I emailed on a couple of Mille Fleur D'Uccle chicks. He is not fond of the number of chickens I have but he smiled and asked "what do they look like?".

So I showed him and he said "Cool, when are we going to get them?" I told him in the after noon. So the time arrived and it was time to go, he offered to drive so I wouldn't burn my gas up AND offered to pay so I didn't have to break my 20 dollar bill! As we were standing talking to the seller of the chicks, he offered me a couple of mixed breeds for free. I turned it down and said that we have enough for now. DH replied "Yes, we didn't really need these 2, but if it makes her day, I am am all for it"

That is just the kind of little things he sneaks in there to make me smile!

Sometimes all it takes are simple little action to really know if someone loves you!

 

[THough1956]

I guess we should think of our chickens as bouquets of flowers with legs!!!!!

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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My DH is the same way. I think Though's quote above is how we should interpret love. Takes all kinds I guess.

 

[sfw2]

My DH is like that, too. When we're on the phone, and about to hang up, I'll usually say "I love you", to which his normal response is "No, you don't." Still bugs me, sometimes, but when he actually responds "I love you, too", it means that much more.

He also built my coop and run (I "helped"

), and just shook his head yesterday when he busted me with the new ducks . . .

He's put up with me and my poop for 20 years, so there must be something there!

 

[THough1956]

Yep, that's the ticket!!

 

[toredano]

Mine is the other way around.He constantly hovers over me. Wants to spend all his time with me making goggly eyes. Grabs my butt at the most inappropiate times and wants to hold hands all the time. And we have been married 19 years .
BUT....This is a direct result from his work.He goes overseas alot and is in a warzone( he is not military) a very very close call with incoming mortar and a helo crash has changed how he feels about me and his son.And how acts around others and treats people.
He was allways a very considered , loving, very giving person tho.Allways thought he was my soulmate.He tells me at least 4 times a day he loves me and does super nice things for me. He cant work on heavy stuff or do alot of stuff around the house since he is still not healed from the crash. But I dont mind.I am so lucky to have him and very lucky he survived the crash.
And he still gives me goosebumbs

 

[THough1956]

You are super lucky!!! Enjoy.

 

[horsejody]

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I tell my DH to not waste money on flowers. Occasionally, they're nice, but giving me presents that directly involve my animal hobbies is much better. One year on Mother's Day he gave me new mud boots and a really nice wheelbarrow. I was thrilled. The only friend that understood my excitement was my trail riding buddie that has an animal menagerie bigger than mine.