heartbreaking when children go astray

[deb1]

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I don't think that anyone feels anything but sympathy for the mother. Because she is keeping her daughter's actions private(which I understand and respect) most of us are trying not to take sides while still being comforting. My own oldest son has made some decisions that I do not agree with but he is an adult and I have to accept his decisions. But, I empathize with the pain that jeucamom is feeling.

Which poster tried to turn this into a Christian versus nonChristian debate? I hadn't seen that but I might have skimmed over the post to which you are referring. Could you quote the person next time, that way if something was misunderstood it can be quickly explained by the poster and no ill or hurt feelings will result. I am certain that no one meant to be disrespectful to jeucamom.

 

[jeaucamom]

I haven't given her money (nor will I) and she lives with her dad, works for dad and the saddest part of all is that he doesn't care about what she is doing. Doesn't want to know, what few boundaries he has for her, she skirts and lies about and nothing happens, so essentially she is free to do what she wants. She and I are on speaking terms, but the farther she goes into this lifestyle the harder a time I am having even talking to her. I love her and she knows that, but after spending a day with her last Sunday with my two other kids it is just soooooo apparent that can not happen again until she turns her life around. We used to be best friends and I miss her terribly.

 

[texasgal]

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[Ashmeade]

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Most definitely tell her that! Hang in there! things have a way of working out if love is there. Sometimes a little time is needed (and much patience!)

 

[krcote]

Am I the only one just itching to know what exactly this young lady is doing that tortures her mother so?

 

[jeaucamom]

I am sorry Krcote, I will not divulge it publicly. This is not about what she has done, this is about what a mom goes through when kids throw their lives away. My intent is to maintain a respectful stance towards my daughter so when she does turn her life around, she will have that much less to live down. I personally have refused to find out certain things that have gone on because I want there to be as little as possible impeding our relationship. You may not understand or agree with this. But the focus should not be on her, or what she has done. Hope that makes sense.

 

[ranchhand]

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This is not about the daughter's specifics, as jeaucamom has said, it is about a mother's pain when an almost grown child rebels and disappoints her parent.

I'm sure others would like to know, too, but good manners keep them from asking blatantly for all the gory details.

 

[debilorrah]

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No you are not, however, it is the OP's choice to share that with us. If she chooses not to, it is fine with me. I can pray for someone without knowing what is REALLY going on.

 

[debilorrah]

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I completely understand that. There are some things, that us as parents, choose not to share with the world. I respect that, and I can still pray for both of you because I do not have to know. God does.

 

[jeaucamom]

Thanks for all your support friends. The last couple of days have been dark indeed for more than just this reason. Seems like when it rains, it pours. Because I live in such a small town, there is truly no one here I could talk to because as I said, I will not slander her. So the support I have gotten on here is all I have had. Even my best friend of 35 years who doesn't live locally I am not free to talk to about this for several reasons. So thank you for all your prayers, they are truly keeping me going, there have been moments that I really haven't wanted to. You gals are the salt of life. Thank you.