The situation is my DH's sister is a really bad drug addict. She lives in North Carolina with her son that is 14 years old. He is drug from house to house and town to town and has already failed a year in school. He is a really good kid. This kid's father lives in Oklahoma and is also a drug addict and can't hold a job. The boy's father wants me and my husband to raise the boy. We are more that willing to do this. Our nephew wants to come live with us here in New Mexico. We have a normal life, we have jobs, there is always meals to eat, etc.. Our nephew's mom says she is fine with him coming to live with us BUT she is the type that will get mad at us for not giving her drug money when she calls and will try to take her son back. We do not want to get our nephew here, settled, started in school, and doing well just for her to uproot him again. She doesn't have money to come down and get him, but we are afraid she might call the cops on us and say we kidnapped him or something along those lines. Our nephew's parents never went to court for child custody, so we are assuming it is split 50/50 (?) The dad said he would sign over his "part of the custody" to us and have it notarized. The mom said she will write a paper saying we can make medical decisions and put him in school, etc. Will that be enough to keep her from yanking him back when ever she gets mad? Anyone with any experience with this please give me some advice. Our nephew is begging to come here with us and has recently been getting into trouble with the law, I don't want to keep wasting time. THANKS!