help with social etiquette

[hikerchick]

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Yeah, maybe I was just assuming that she would want to improve her skills because that is how I would feel. You are right.

That's just my take on it.... I still think the goody bag of dollar store toys and a friendly "thanks anyway and best wishes" was the best suggestion.

Yep. We are all on this planet together. We might as well be kind to one another. It doesn't hurt anything.

 

[Sunny Side Up]

You could give her... a CHICKEN!

No, but really, it's up to you. You know her enough to know that she's excited about this first baby, which is a really special time in one's life. Often people let others know about their own showers to offer them an opportunity to join in their fun, or it could be she is trying to pad her present pile. Who knows? You could politely decline, or show up to see if it's your brand of fun. If you go and it's not your thing, you could politely excuse yourself citing other business.

I would suggest getting 1-2 things at a place like Target or Walmart instead of many things at a dollar store, a lot of the stuff they have there is really junk and it shows. Sometimes you can find really nice things at Target on their clearance rack. Or at a place like Ross, TJMaxx, or Marshalls, a place that sells new things for a discount.

I hope it works out nicely for you, whatever you do! You sound like a nice person, to even be concerned about what to do about this.

 

[heatherindeskies]

Thank you for all the good advice. Since it is not the gal's fault I am uncomfortable in social situations I cannot just snub her.
I will get her a card and gift and tell her I hope she has alot of fun, and tell the truth if she presses for a reason. I think that would not only be the nice thing to do, but kinda rolls a lot of your advice into one deal here!

 

[Laurajean]

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I didn't mean to imply it has to be junk, I was just running with another poster's suggestion. But I would not feel obligated to spend a lot of money on something fancy either, for a co-worker you really don't know.

 

[heatherindeskies]

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[redhen]

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I didn't mean to imply it has to be junk, I was just running with another poster's suggestion. But I would not feel obligated to spend a lot of money on something fancy either, for a co-worker you really don't know.

Yep, i agree with you there.
If you have extra money that week, fine. Go more expensive.. But if not.. you can get things and make up a nice little baby goods basket from the dollar store..

 

[caspernc]

For someone like this I get a calander with the "DATE" circled. If it is a birth I put a ? on the date and if it is a wedding just a big circle! It is a collectable for them. I also put my best wishes on it.

 

[debilorrah]

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Actually, her dress and the ones for her daughters are really nice. And she is making him wear a tux. We shall see.

 

[hikerchick]

I had a radical thought- maybe this chick is also socially awkward and that is why she is throwing her own shower and inviting people she barely knows- maybe she has no friends. Just an idea.

 

[hikerchick]

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That sounds perfect!