help with social etiquette

[Dar]

No one should EVER feel pressured (please dont read into this I know no one here is pressuring anyone to go) to go to a social function if they dont want to go... feel awkward going... may not like someone... or heck just cause they are washing their hair that day.

most of us are people pleaser's... even though we would rather eat toe jam with a side dish of fungus then go to social functions a lot of us will still go to avoid appearing rude, or stand offish...

when all is said and done we hated every minute of it and dread the next little card that comes in the mail for another shower or latest cookware party... we should feel good that we have the back bone to say no thanks but heres a small gift for the baby (but dont feel you need to buy a gift)

 

[redhen]

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Makes perfect sense to me..

 

[gritsar]

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Makes perfect sense to me..

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[Laurajean]

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Makes perfect sense to me..

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[rancher hicks]

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Your looking at it from YOUR point of view, as if YOU are the invitee and that's not what the op said.

Your reason for going should be for the OTHER person, not yourself. Consider that this person thought enough of you to invite you. They, in some cases took the time to prepare their home and what ever for your comfort and pleasure.

Now if you get invited to alot of places then God bless you , but if you consider the other person , you would go and just spend a few minutes. But you do not have to go to everything your invited to if you had other plans.

In the op's case and this is where we need to focus she was invited and it's a co-worker who apparently whether the hostess invited her or not, wanted her there and I feel she should go.

This I learned from my wife also, (try not to faint that I should learn something from her) you never go empty handed. A small box of candy or flowers for the hostess.

Like I said, Treat others as you want them to treat you. The way to have a friend, is to be a friend. If a man would have friends, he must first show himself friendly.

I say all this for the OP only.

 

[PineappleMama]

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Well if that doesn't just set it up so that any greedy person can run around basically demanding gifts from people they don't know I don't know what does. Not that that's what this one is doing... but still. I can think of a couple folks who would capitalize on that if they knew it was acceptable and they'd not have to do anything in return.

But if you feel you HAVE to get something... for me with my son I kept Lansinoh cream and Mylicon drops at home, in the diaper bag, everywhere because when you needed it you did not want to hunt... and neither of those things was given to me at the shower. Huge hunt to find them, all over town, with some very sore areas to tangle with during the crusade. Of course you wouldn't want to give Lansinoh to a woman with no intention of nursing, and since you don't know her at all it's hardly something you're likely to ask about... but the Mylicon is a good idea... also I found a pacifier with built in med syringe that I thought would be handy. Hard as hades to get DS to take his medicine the one time he got an ear infection... so that's an idear too. Found that for all of a couple dollars on 1deal.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

For a baby shower, you REALLY need to avoid toys from the dollar store. Yes, they can be great for the preschool set, but not for babies. Much better to go to Target ot Walmart or Babies-R-Us and get baby lotion/shampoo/diaper ointment/wipes, etc. The baby toys they have at tehse stores are ones I would much more likely trust to be safe. A cute outfit is also nice, and needn't be expensive. Everyone always says--"they grow out of the newborn ones fo fast---you should really get size 6 months" Problem is most newborns don't fit into a size 6 months very well. Kind of like a size 6 wearing a size 3X. I took my 8 pounder home with no clothes small enough for him. And it was much worse clothes-wise taking home his 3 pound brother a few years later.

Another toy idea for the baby--a stuffed chicken! Probably easy to find with Easter coming up.