help with social etiquette

[debilorrah]

I don't think that is what she was saying. I think alot of times, certainly not in this case as the OP has stated she is uncomfortable, people don't go because they don't want to even if it would hurt someones feelings.

 

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[redhen]

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Nope, what i wrote was exactly what she was saying about me.

 

[Laurajean]

I have to agree with Redhen on this one. Why go if you don't want to? Especially if she doesn't have social skills, it will probably be clear she doesn't want to be there, and that could come off as looking rude. I hate going to things because I feel socially obligated. I don't think the OP wants to hone her etiquette skills, I think she wants to get out of it and said she doesn't even ever hang out with this co-worker. I don't think she was asking if she should go, I think she was asking if she should get a gift.

 

[redhen]

Yes, and i think that getting a gift is a nice gesture. And i would do that much.
But to HAVE go to a (basically) strangers party just they decided to toss you an invitation? Come on...

 

[redhen]

Post removed. Stop it.

 

[PamB]

It is very obvious that everyone is different and we all handle these types of situations differently. It is true that the OP never mentioned that she was wondering whether or not she should attend the shower, just if she should give a gift. Everyone seems to have different opinions, so it looks like the OP should do what she wants to do in this situation. I'm not sure if there is a right or wrong answer. As I said, I personally would give a gift. Probably a small one. Another option would be to decline the invite, and maybe give her a small gift when the baby is born. Whatever you do, it should be because you want to do it to celebrate her new baby.

 

[hikerchick]

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Yeah, maybe I was just assuming that she would want to improve her skills because that is how I would feel. You are right.

 

[SourRoses]

Debs... I've watched every episode of "Say Yes To The Dress" and Im trying to imagine what her dress choice will be. I have somewhat outlandish taste... but... there were three biker type ladies on there, two had excellent taste and listened to their mommas... one on the other hand...

 

[Laurajean]

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Yeah, maybe I was just assuming that she would want to improve her skills because that is how I would feel. You are right.

That's just my take on it.... I still think the goody bag of dollar store toys and a friendly "thanks anyway and best wishes" was the best suggestion.