Helped an older lady, with a walker by opening the door...

[cassidy22]

You know what? Don't let it get you down. It's her choice to react that way, and to see it as something that upsets her. It is also your choice to say sorry, and go about your day without letting it upset you.

I was one of those militant, uninformed feminists in my very younger days, and I used to get offended when boys in school would open doors for me. I took it as a message that I was weak and needed assistance. I have since learned that their intention was not that at all, but one of trying to be polite, like their parents taught them. I feel terrible for all the young men I scolded for opening doors when they were just trying to be nice (and get my attention!)

Maybe she was having a bad day, but you know in your heart that you are trying to be helpful, and some people just may not want any help at all. Keep doing what you're doing, I imagine you are brightening more peoples' days than you are offending.

 

[MeatKing]

Thank-you Cassidy
You are right!!!

 

[Runt Of The Litter]

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wow must have met mum,when she went through the application for her first senior travel pass,she refused to have her photo taken but dad coaxed her into it as it meant she woud get free travel to use all over the country.
however,after getting the pass,dad said if there was ever any passengers already on the buses/train, she woud refuse to use her pass and wasted her money instead,she said she didnt like other people to recognise her age.

meatking,
it isnt always because they are being grumpy old duffers with no manners,often people who have mobility difficulties are treated like helpless babies by wellmeaning but ignorant public-grabbing onto the person and leading them somewhere,grabbing the handles of wheelchairs and pushing them,pulling someone on crutches and others who are unsteady on their feet etc-without asking if they woud like any help,so they may be associating being given this help with not being an independant adult.


have known adult wheel chair users end up getting the handles removed on their wheel chairs because
of strangers who feel its their duty to go up to them and steer them to where they assume the person wants to go,it can injure people when they are physicaly helped by strangers who are not trained in moving/handling nor know the persons needs so in most cases it woud be better to say that hope do not offend but just wondered if they woud like any help.

it sounds like that lady probably thought she was having her independance taken away,if it ever happens again just explain that were just trying to be mannerly as do with everyone else and are sorry if it offended them but were always taught its good manners to help others.

she coud just have said thanks and left it at that really,as its unlikely will both see each other again.
the elderly people of today are fiercly indepenant.

 

[WhiteMountainsRanch]

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Man now THAT is customer service! What an awesome feed store! I wish the ones around here were like that!!!

 

[Stacykins]

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What a terrible attitude for the business. I wish you had a local feed store like mine. Family owned, and the gaggle of brothers always leap to bring the feed to your vehicle with a smile, great service, you don't even get a chance to carry your own feed! I always tip them, even though they say I am one of the few who does.

My feed store just loaded up their truck and brought it over and unloaded it. I paid and went out to get in my truck but it was empty; the owner said it was probably already halfway home. I had 90 sacks of feed, and they knew I would be doing all the work myself. Pre emptive strike. I grinned all day, and every time I see those sacks of feed neatly stacked in the barn.

Wow, awesome! I think my feed store does that for very large orders. I only get a few bags at a time, personally, so it has never come up!

 

[heatherindeskies]

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Perfect!!! you have just moved to the next level of being an awesome human!

 

[dewey]

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