Here we go again!

[debilorrah]

Ok does anyone have any suggestion for sticking lead foot up their loved ones backside? I have no idea why he is dragging his feet, but he has managed to find a million other things to do other than applying!!!! He cleaned the house, weeded the yard (2.5 acres), built two rabbit hutches, and has list for me of what we need to buy!!!!

I know I need to sit him down and talk to him. This is making me nuts!!! What is going through his mind? I love this man with all my heart and this is NOT like him.

 

[OrpingtonManor]

hi Debi!
ask him what he is thinking, but make sure you do it with an open heart to what he has to say. have a conversation. don't just talk to change his mind.

what ever happens, good luck to both of you!!

 

[debilorrah]

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I love him beyond all belief, so any conversation I have with him will be gentle. I am not mad, just frustrated. I told him this morning that I needed the car to pay the rent (I deposit into their account at the bank). He said "Are we that late? Or early?"

Late honey, late.

 

[Mahonri]

Men don't like to move... ('course, women probably don't enjoy it either)

I know you have a good job now, would you also be applying for a job there?

I've got to go google earth this place to figure out where it's at.

Prayers headed your way...

 

[debilorrah]

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I would stay home for a bit to get everthing in place. The coop, the rabbit habitat, etc, bt yes I would eventually find work. And it is there for the taking.

 

[Balefire]

Positiv energie for you hubby is on the way.
Maybe you ofer him some help fot the applying thing? I now my hubby hates things like that, but if I ask him, if he needs help, he will start right away.

my fingers that you hubby is the same

 

[EweSheep]

 

[sonew123]

wow Deb that sounds awesome! I bet Ken is just really scared to start over somewhere new? Him doing all the manly things around the house is giving him a sense of accomplishment and probably building up his emotional strength as well as mental strength to do what he needs to do with out all the other "house garbage he needs to do" weighing on his mind. Give him a few more days to pretty things up around the house and accomplish a few more goals to empty his mind and I bet he will jump on board Just support him and say thank you for all his good deeds- make him feel like he is king and get his ego going...that always seems to work

 

[WingingIt]

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See, if he applies and doesn't get a job, he's let himself, but more importantly, YOU, down (in his mind). If he just never applies, well, then, he can't be denied, can he? Plus, there's (maybe) the fact that he's probably applied to some other places and not gotten hired due to being over qualified, different skill set, etc. I think a lot of people wind up in that mind set after being unemployed for any amount of time. It's a form of depression.

I think talking with him is the right thing to do, let him know that you love him no matter what and you're proud of him and no matter what, you two will make it, TOGETHER.

Best of luck to you both.

 

[debilorrah]

We have his daughter's baby shower today and he asked what we are taking. A thingof baby wash and and IOU for the blanket I am making that isn't finished. He said "Is that ALL?" I told him, we have $57 in the checking account, want me to go get something else?