We are "homesteaders".
I believe that there are very very few people who can fulfill the true original meaning of homesteader. There are fewer still who can immediately move from the suburbs to total off grid homesteading life.
Homesteading is a process as much as a changing definition.
Our plot of land is 2.5 acres. A drop in the bucket really. Many would scoff at that tiny size! It is NOT large enough to grow hay for our goats, so we've already lost 1 point on self sustainability. However, I can assure you, there are many resources to be found to help you live very sustainably one this size of property (or even a bit smaller.)
You CAN live a self sufficient life in a more urban setting.
Ask only you and your partner what homesteading means to you. What are your personal goals and reasons for wanting what you do?
Don't be afraid to make this a slower process. Maybe or maybe not, that means you want to sell your current home and buy a bigger property in the same school district (but again, how big do you personally need?)
We are a rural family. Not as rural as some, but 30min to a grocery store and at 1100ft elevation, in a small town. Our neighbors are all visible, closer than I'd like and my retirement farm will fix that haha. While our kids are young and in school, where we are feels really great. Neighbors are good to awesome and some share similar goals as us. Its a micro community at a time when we need it.
We have a mature orchard we are adding juvenile trees to, large garden plot, a dairy goat herd, ducks, chickens, and breeding rabbits. My focus this year will be learning to achieve more produce from the garden and to keep working on reducing our open monoculture field space (its just junk grass, barely grows dandelions!) I'll be slowly adding a few native cultivar shrubs, trees, and patches of wild flowers, herbs, etc to different areas. And, my goat herd has stolen my heart. I will be adding pasture #3 and focusing on good herd management to create a healthy sustainable herd that'll provide excellent babies and milk.
I've had much let down with chicken management, so other than meat birds in a tractor, I think the flock dynamics will stay about the same for a while. We have plenty of producers right now anyway.
I sew, knit, can, bake all of our bread, learning to garden, manage the orchard, on top of those animals. We build what we need or source things cheap, not brand new. Last year was learning to process meat birds and this year will be meat rabbits.
There's enough food in my home, from all food groups, to healthfully eat for a solid month+ without going to the store. We still are making trips haha, because we do enjoy some fresh items, but that's a really good feeling to know we don't literally HAVE to!
Yesterday the Mr and I were discussing new goals. We were doing a dump run and realized that since last time we went in September, we had only accumulated 2 60gal bags of trash. 85% of our waste was recyclables! That's good AND bad. For a family of 5, that would shock many. Means I did really good reducing and reusing so things aren't trashed, but we are still buying WAY too many items in packaging. Good goal, to reduce the recycling as well, because that is also a form of waste.
I could talk forever. Probably just wrote a novel. My point is, you're never too old to start living better, you can live more freely exactly where you are right now, and NO ONE knows everything right away. I learn a minimum of 5 new things for this lifestyle every single day. That means every single day I can take one more step towards independence of the larger societal systems I was born into.
I am strong, I can learn, and I can do things for myself and my family if I want to.