How can I forgive myself for killing her.

kelseygirl707

Dances with Chickens
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Mar 3, 2009
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I can't stop crying! Early this afternoon I brought my 7 week old Cuckoo Maran pullet Kevin out to free range in the warm backyard, the dogs were out with her, so I knew nothing would bother her, but then the wind kicked up and she was having a hard time staying grounded, so I brought her in. I gave her a slice of watermelon and let her run about the living room. I am always soo careful when she is out, warning my husband every time he moves that Kevin is out, and be careful not to step on her. But I was the threat, it was me that carelessly moved about and stepped on my poor baby. I immediately jumped back, and started to panic as she kinda ran/flopped around the living room, my husband quickly scooped her up and held her close as I started to sob. At first it just seemed she was in shock, and not hurt too bad, but she quickly began to go limp, she wouldn't stand or hold her head up, and she seemed to struggle to keep her eyes open. We called a vet, they told us to keep her comfortable, and if it is shock it will wear off in 4-6 hours, but if it didn't then we would need to put her down. So my husband held her for about a half hour, stroking her, and all I could do was pet her and continuously tell her how sorry I was. Finally my husband put her in her brooder so she could be nice and warm under her heat lamp, but he went back in about 10 minutes later to check on her, and my poor baby was gone.

I feel so horrible, she was my baby, I have hatched tons of chicks, but Kevin was the first I ever kept, in fact she was my first pet chicken. She was a single hatching, with a deformed foot that I splinted so she could walk. She became close with me because she was an only chick. I always thought she hated me, until her first visit outside when she was scared, so she kept jumping in my lap. Just last night I old Hubby we needed to get the coop built because she had started using me as a roost. She love her daily crickets, and I would crack up watching her hunt them down then run around flaunting her catch.

I can't believe she's gone. I feel soo bad, and miss her so much, that I told my husband I was done with chickens, and put my 3 polish pullets up on craigslist. I have 10 eggs in the incubator that I was sooo excited about, and I'm hoping by the time they hatch in 10 days I will feel differently, but right now I am so hurt and mad at my self, not to mention the guilt, that I'm not sure I even want chickens anymore. How can I forgive myself. DH keeps telling me to let up on myself it was an accident, and that Kevin knew I would never hurt her on porpose, but still, I took my sweet babies life, and I can't forgive myself for that.

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Awww, I'm sorry sweetie! Don't be so hard on yourself, accidents happen and that's what this was, an accident. You know that you never would have done this on purpose. Give yourself some time to grieve and enjoy your new babies hatching out. What you're feeling is perfectly normal and give it some time.
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Please, don't do anything rash like selling your other animals just because you're filled with anger at yourself right at this moment. I've been there, done that and have always, always regretted it.
 
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So sorry. I agree with your husband; you just have to move on. You won't forget it, but you have to let it go. Easier said than done, I know. Many of us have been there...mine was a little duckling accident years ago.
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Keep your other chicks...it's obvious that you love your birds... Find a nice little place in the yard to bury your little Kevin and remember her fondly.
 
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While I have never had this specifically happen, what helps me if I feel partly responsible for an animal's death is to ask its forgiveness. I'm sure she already knows it was a complete accident, but it might help your heart
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Accidents can happen no matter how careful we are, so forgive yourself too. Hang in there, and I also encourage you too to keep your chicks, they will appreciate someone who loves them so much!
 
So sorry, keep all the memories she gave you close to your heart, they will ease the pain, and eventually you will be able to love a new little life
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Thanks for the comforting words guys, right now I'm drowning my sorrows in a glass of wine, maybe tomorrow I be able to cut myself some slack, but right now I just have to be angry with myself.
 
Im so sorry
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Try to forgive yourself, it was an accident.
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My mom once accidentally rolled up one of my day old lavender silkie chicks in the paper towel we were using as bedding and she threw it in the trash. My dad took our trash to the dump and we didnt realize she was missing, until an hour later. My mom felt so guilty but eventually we will overcome the situation in time. I feel for you.
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I'm so sorry
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Please listen to everyone and stop blaming yourself accident happen - I feel for you and am crying along with you
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I'm soooo sorry to hear about this as she was not just a chicken to you, but a treasured pet. Well, remember, when you know better, you do better. It was, afterall, a tragic accident and I bet it never happens again with you.

That being said, do not punish your other creatures for your error. Think of whatever home your Polish might end up in vs. the home you know you'll give them.

I have always found the way to assuage my remorse in a critter's death is to donate to a rescue group so that some other worthy animal has a shot at a good home. (Don't know if they have chicken rescues, though, but there are plenty of homeless other creatures.) In the end I feel double-y good because I've donated and, ultimately, I end up replacing my lost one and so TWO animals benefit. Another thing I've done is planted a tree or rosebush in the yard. One particularly bad year at the ranch I ended up with a whole grove of liquid ambers.... Stuff happens! If we were perfect, we wouldn't have to learn lessons the hard way.
 

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