How can no Parole mean living in a halfway house?

[welsummerchicks]

Why do your friends say you are worrying about nothing? Can you ask them?

I think in general, unless organized crime is involved (which it is not in this case) there is little way for someone to affect your life after a crime if they don't know where you are.

And ya gotta think - if someone is stupid enough to do such an obvious robbery (employees are always the first suspects) and kill someone, they can't possibly be smart enough to find you.

Anxiety attacks are a medical issue, you need to see your doctor about that.

Personally, it sounds to me like your position is good.

As far as the blankety blank lawyer, the thing you have to do if you are involved in such a case is tell yourself that that GRILLING by the opposing lawyer just about guarantees there won't be an appeal or that any appeal they try, will be unsuccessful.

If the opposing lawyer has that free a hand in questioning the witnesses, there's a lot of doubt he can claim he was prevented from defending his client.

You see what I mean? And didn't the prosecuting attorney do his job and tell you exactly what all tactics the defense lawyer would try? They nearly ALWAYS pick at witnesses. There really isn't a whole lot they can do OTHER than that when the guy is obviously guilty. That or plead for leniency in sentencing on the grounds that their client is a good guy, his first crime, bla bla bla.

To be honest, it really is part of the legal system that every defendant gets a complete and thorough defense and when the guy is obviously guilty all they can do is pick at witnesses and the jury knows that and the judge knows that.

Any time you see a defense attorney attacking witnesses you can tell yourself, 'He knows he's gonna lose'.

One lady told me that when the defense attorney was attacking her she had to put on a sad face and dab at her eyes, but inwardly she was laughing and saying, 'GOTCHA, YOU SOB'.

 

[SillyChicken]

Don't let those guys "win" by allowing the fear and anxiety this is causing you to get out of hand and control your life. Go get some help dealing with it.

 

[KristyHall]

Your anxiety is perfectly normal.
If it becomes so overwhelming that it is affecting your daily life you may need to see a therapist,. if you can not see one there are usually free group therapies including groups for survivors of violent crimes in most areas. just type in your area and what you are needing in a search engine.

There is no shame in being anxious and afraid. Especially when it becomes more than you can handle. Post traumatic stress is a real thing and as a survivor of a violent crime you have every right to feel the way you feel. You survived something big, and it is not surprising you're worried about this new news.

 

[Mattemma]

The only other thing I can think of is a legal name change.Sounds like you have done most that you can by moving,having dogs,and guns.

I am sorry to went through this. Sometimes the thought of crime makes me pause with worry. I no longer watch the news,but I think of those that were touchd by crime.People just living their lives and then BAM they get attacked. The crimminals get off so easy,and come out soon to do it all over again. All you can do is wat you are doing now.Prepare and hope nothing happens to you or loved ones.

Hugs. I would suggest therapy and personal protection classes to help you feel more empowered instead of afraid.

 

[dkvart1]

I can understand you concern and anxiety. One thing to bear in mind however that generally if someone is transferred to a half way house they have been a model prisoner and were reclassified and moved into minimum security or they wouldn't even be considered for a halfway house... Generally to qualify they would have had to stay out of trouble, hold a job within the prison and generally show an attempt to change their lives.

I would suspect that statistically someone getting out of jail and going after anyone that was involved in the prosecution are acutally extremely low. Most are smart enough to realize if anything happens to any of those folks they will be at the top of the suspect list.

Perhaps a conversation with his parole officer (if you can find out who that is) would help quell some of your anxiety. If it were me, I wouldn't be overly concerned that he would come looking for me. Some of the suggestions on here were good, something you should do anyway... like not making your personal information readily available, contacting the school to let them know what's going on and work as well. Sadly in this day and age you need to be more cautious and aware of your surrounding in general.

Other than that I wouldn't do anything. I certainly wouldn't be running out and getting a permit for a gun. Jittery nerves and a gun do not belong together, that's how tragic accidents happen and most people just don't have what it takes to use it in those types of situations.

The other reason is because I learned long ago that if you live with anger or fear over a past event then the other person still has control over you. I refuse to allow another to dictate how I feel or live my life, no matter what the circumstances.

 

[terrilhb]

Thank you all so much for all the advice and kind words. I will take them all to heart. It is so nice to have somewhere to go and vent and have people listen. Thank you all again

 

[WriterofWords]

I guess the same way the man is serving 3 concurrent life sentences for murdering my step mother and sisters comes up for parole every year and I have to go do my victim's impact statement to keep him behind bars. It's hard. My local SO is very supportive of me and when this guy has escaped 3 times they are my doorstep immediately for information and protection.

 

[schellie69]

I understand the panic attacks I suffer from these also, I have a strong fight or flight response do not walk behind me. I would talk to victim asst and make sure that they can have no contact with you. You are not being over anything these feeling are real. I think with the guns and dogs you are doing what you can to protect yourself. I would also make sure your local police dept knows about this maybe they can drive by your house a few times a shift. Good luck praying things work out for you.