Another thread got me thinking...
I am very blessed. My four kids all get along. Of course, they occasionally fight with one another or get nasty. But for the most part they act kind toward each other.
I know a lot of families where this is not true. So, I was wondering if any of you have advice to other parents about getting your kids to like their siblings?
I am trying to think what I did differently then other people.
When my children were little, I made up things that they could do for their new brother or sister, like getting me wipes or diapers. This took more time but it helped them to feel involved.( I also did the same thing with housework and now my kids clean up the house LOL)
When they got in a fight, I punished both kids. This is because if the older one hit the younger one, then probably the younger one did something to annoy the older one. If they fought over a toy, I removed the toy for a day. (This rule didn't apply to a few special toys. If they had a favorite stuffed animal, for example, they didn't have to share that.)
I really think that how you treat the sibling relationship when they are young will affect their attitudes toward one another when they are older.
My kids still bicker, but for the most part they get along well. So, if you are parent with kids that get along decently then write what you did. If you are a teen with siblings that you like more then dislike, tell us how you think your parents helped you all get along.
I am very blessed. My four kids all get along. Of course, they occasionally fight with one another or get nasty. But for the most part they act kind toward each other.
I know a lot of families where this is not true. So, I was wondering if any of you have advice to other parents about getting your kids to like their siblings?
I am trying to think what I did differently then other people.
When my children were little, I made up things that they could do for their new brother or sister, like getting me wipes or diapers. This took more time but it helped them to feel involved.( I also did the same thing with housework and now my kids clean up the house LOL)
When they got in a fight, I punished both kids. This is because if the older one hit the younger one, then probably the younger one did something to annoy the older one. If they fought over a toy, I removed the toy for a day. (This rule didn't apply to a few special toys. If they had a favorite stuffed animal, for example, they didn't have to share that.)
I really think that how you treat the sibling relationship when they are young will affect their attitudes toward one another when they are older.
My kids still bicker, but for the most part they get along well. So, if you are parent with kids that get along decently then write what you did. If you are a teen with siblings that you like more then dislike, tell us how you think your parents helped you all get along.