how would you feel if?

[chixie]

conversation went good... she say she didnt want to bother us since other DD just had a baby(other DD lioves with us at the moment)she said they changed their minds. but I think roomate turned them down... also I wouldnt have been as hurt if it was at least a family member.

 

[Marcymom3]

I am so sorry that your daughter left that message on the phone. It is completely understandable that you would feel hurt and upset by what you read there. Under those circumstances, I would be also. One thing I can tell you is that you never know under what circumstances she was writing at the time. Could she have been overly tired and depressed? Did she think that you weren't feeling well? Also, she could just putting out her feelers. Suppose something were to happen to her dear mom who does so much for her? Wouldn't you rather she have some help lined up than to suffer the loss and have nobody for your grandson? You say she is normally very mature. Maybe this is proof that your faith in that maturity is justified?

My grandchildren are 5 and 6 years old, and they are really good kids and I love having them for sleepovers and long weekends. In my experience, it was much easier to take care of them when they were babies BUT, at their current age (and MY current age!!) they wear me out! It is surprising for me that I am not getting any younger. LOL Also, I do not like to be "the hammer"... that is to say, I do not like to discipline.

Try to just move on from the hurt and keep being the loving mom and grandma you have always been. Here's wishing that you are ALL around for a long, long time and this never becomes an issue!

 

[chixie]

My health is good. I am only 39... and finacially we are ok.. own a farm,home, my cars... I am feeling better after talking to her. I just dont believe the roomate ( a single guy who is still acting like a kid himself) is a good choice. Dont get me wrong this roomate is a great person. I like him alot.

 

[HeatherLynn]

I would be hurt but on the upside,They picked someone sorta obviously un-able to care for the baby, the courts would probably not approve it. Then it gets to be a court battle between families, which is always fun. Give baby Aden kisses from us. I didn't want to burden my parents with my 4 either when doing a will but talked with them and they insisted so. Just let her know its no burden.