how'd u go being pregnant (or as the partner)

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just fluffier! hahaha thats funny...yeah i think it is true love...we have a pub 1 block away but he still drives past it...waves to his unmarried, unattached child free mates, and continues on to our house...everyday..well 5 days a week anyway!
i know when u take a step back it is such a very short time...hmm 9 mths vs. 18yrs...(18 ur a 100% legal adult here...i can kick them out! lol)
i dont know...i think the whole fatty awkward bumpy thing with a few stretch marks slowly creeping round my belly makes things harder...i already have a girl and this pregnancy is 200% diff...

its a boy then! it is alot harder then my 1st and im alot more mood-swingy...bub#1 i was just grumpy most days....but im sooo excited...i cant wait!
what can i do for my partner to make him fell loved though? i know hes stressed bout work...and his beloved car is broken so were selling it...so i want him to feel good instead of us both being ferals! a.t.m im doing what i know he likes...not for ur knowledge though!

...and i was wondering what else i can do....i keep the house clean, clothes washed and put away, dinners cooked early...what else can i do?
what do guys need during this part of it? i cant imagine its any easier for him...he might not be fat and awkward...but hes out everyday bringing home the bacon...hes loyal and loving (most days! lol) and a fantastic father and provider...so how do i make him feel special...afterall...i was there too!! its not ALL his fault

and i want him to know i appreciate his efforts to put up with me...hmm ill try to put some pics up of my bulging belly!!! hahaha

 

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there we are!! nice and round and ready to pop!

ready for the show

 

[Cetawin]

whenever you feel yourself getting upset, grumpy or grouchy force yourself to take a deep breath, count to 10 and ask yourself

"Why am I upset/angry/whatever"

"Is it really worth it?"

"Is he really responsible (or guilty

)"

Also, talk to your doctor about natural herbs to help your hormone balance and mood swings.



BTW pregnancy has got NOTHING on menopause! I sat at my diningroom table one day...all day waiting for DH to come home just so I could yell at him.

The poor man walked in the door and I said in a snarl

"I know you have done nothing but I am about to rip you a new *** for no apparent reason but it must be done"

then I did just that.

then I apologized and crying I told him he should probably go back to Iraq because the terrorists were nicer than I was.

Whew yeah the big Menopause is a bear.

 

[English Chick]

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Agree totally.....being pregnant was fantastic....no moods, always smiling......then menopause....zap pow wham!!! out comes the alter ego.....frankenstein!!.... hated it ...... am calmer now (well most days......but every now and again.....there I blow again!)

 

[random]

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ok...im not that bad! if i even begun to say them words to him i think he would leave!
atleast when i do get upset it is for a reason...seems valid enough to me too! theres only 2 problems...1 i get more upset then is prolly needed and 2..sometimes the problem isnt life shattering...its just abit annoying...
it has to do with...umm...mummy daddy stuff ...

he doesnt want to be ANYwhere near me cuz of the whole mood thing..and his distance makes my moods go beserk-out-of-control from angry about it, to depressed, to lonely, to worried...what if its cuz of the way i look...it takes a fight for me to spill on it which makes him madder and want more space...i dont blame him atall but i keep telling him...it might not matter to u but its important to me, so atleast pretend to care...
im really quite happy for him to zone out and not really listen...infact its better that way...but all he does is lock himself in the computer room looking at....umm...stuff....cuz he doesnt want to be in the same room as me!
i feel like yelling at him and shaking him sometimes!! "i need a cuddle and a kiss! now come sit next to me dang it!!!"

but i know it wont help...so instead i sit and cry about the fact that he doesnt want me...when in actual fact hes just stressed and tired and doesnt have the patience a.t.m to deal with it...which is y i thot id ask if any guys have pointers on how i can help him feel more relaxed and happy here...if hes happy im happy...
my doctor is no help...shes had 4 kids and she says "dont worry moods are normal! my hubby had to shut up and listen, so he can too! if ur grabbing knives come back and ill help..if ur just crying tell him to shutup and listen" i like the advice...he doesnt!
i dont know....but i do feel better being able to talk to SOMEbody...every1 i know works so im stuck here...alone...well with my 2.5yr old....in my own thots...that makes it worse too!
dunno but i am feeling better now that ive carried on here for a bit! lol
thanks for listening b.t.w guys...appreciate it!

 

[chickenbuddy]

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That's hilarious!

 

[shelleyd2008]

I tried everything when I was overdue with my first, he did not come until they made him come!!

Chickie Momma~~ That is funny. I have had 3 boys, and all 3 were very uneventful pregnancies. I've always heard that it is the girl pregnancies that cause moodiness and morning sickness!

I agree with asher though, if you are having this much trouble with moods and you are still pregnant, keep a close watch on it after delivery. I had PPD after my 2nd son, and it was not fun! It lasted 1 year, I didn't even hold him half the time. His 2 year old brother was the one that would give him his bottle or bring him to me, the poor guy practically lived in his car seat unless someone else got him out. I hated being like that, but I wanted absolutely nothing to do with him. I had even thought of giving him up for adoption. But after the PPD finally cleared up, he was an absolute joy, and I made every effort to spoil him rotten! Just be careful, okay? And hang in there, the last few weeks go by in no time!

I would recommend to anyone that is or is planning on becoming pregnant to get the book titled "what to expect when you're expecting". I had this book when I was pregnant with my last son, and it seemed to make the time go by quicker. Kind of sucked for me, since I love being pregnant! I could do without the L&D part, and the 'I know mom' years, but pregnancy was a blast!

 

[Chickie Mamma]

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Yeah, its wierd. My son did me in! I didn't even know I was pregnant with my 2 girls (unless I tried to see my feet). For my mom to tell me "I'm surprised your husband has not left you yet during this pregnancy", it had to be bad. I remember one time, my girls were in school, and I was sitting on one of their swings on their swingset. 8 months pregnant and hubby came home and I was sitting there crying on the swing. He asked why I was crying and I told him it was because the chain on the swing was rusted. Then I yelled at him for not fixing it sooner. We laugh about it now, but WOW!! I was NUTS!! My son is 3 now and he is NUTS! So I guess thats the reason

 

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yeah i am aware of the fact that i can get depressed which makes handling it ALOT easier! i can usually tell when it starts and im happy to ask for help...im not shy about that...cuz i know that it can get out of control really quickly so since ive gotten a grasp on the fact i manage really quite well...so in saying that i know to be on the lookout for any little slips down that lane...i was careful with my 1st....i think i was abit down for the 1st week but its just soo lovely having ur own little baby i couldnt help be happy...but i am very lucky that my fantastic inlaws are a street away and they look after me very well! my 1st was 5 days over...on fri they said u need to have this baby (i had gestational diabetes...but not with this one) so i was booked in to be induced mon...she came late sun morn! and shes still like that now...will keep pushing till shes gunna get it! lol

but i love her like that! most days! as long as i have someone some where i can chat to i do alright...which is why im here now...so i can feel better and not be grumpy when he comes home....its nice talking to ppl that understand though....
sooo any funny stories about the big day itself? my partner wasnt very nice....i told him something was wrong sat morn but he wanted to go fishing...i asked to take me with and he wanted time away...then he came home late...asked for dinner...pain got worse and worse and worse...then asked for a cuppa...i gave up and called mum...we timed the contractions and they were 5 min apart!! i called the hospital and they said have panadol! no waay was that going to ease this pain....so they said ok fine come in...the time it took to get there...5min...they were 3min apart...then i sat in the waiting room for 10min and they were 1min apart...then i went to the birthing place and i freaked and it all kinda slowed right down....i had an epidural, slept for 6 hours, woke up and they said she was almost out!! my body did it for me!! well...kinda! so i had a good experience...which is why im here for #2...good pregnancy, good birth, good feeder, good baby....this one however...pain..in..the..a*s

 

[Chickie Mamma]

My deliveries were very quick. With my first, my water broke on my due date. Went to hospital, was 4 cm. 1 hour later, I wanted the epidural, they gave it to me, 20 mins after that, she was out. Epidural didn't get a chance to numb anything. 2nd delivery, was 4 days early, had pains, went to hospital, was 4 cm. Gave me Pitocin and an epidural (this time it had time to work. I didn't feel a thing (was very NICE). 2 hours later she was out. I had so much pressure with my son, the last week of pregnancy, I could not walk. They induced me and again, the anesthiesologist was in doing an emergency c-section, so I had to wait for the epidural. That was not fun with Pitocin. Epidural given, son was out in 20 mins. Got numb after he was out. All my births were within 4 hours. I was very lucky. I hope yours is quick. Love the pics.. I missed my belly after giving birth. I literally felt so empty. Good Luck and stay positive!!