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husband being shipped out with marines

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by Becky89*, Jul 15, 2008.

  1. Becky89*

    Becky89* Chillin' With My Peeps

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    my unborn baby's daddy is being shipped out in six days *starts crying* I am scared and worried and Josh means everything to me. I don't want to lose him. I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!! He joined the marines before we met and this is my first time with him leaving. I am almost four months pregnant and I am scared.


    I am sorry for rambling. I am just so scared for Josh's safety!!
     
  2. d.k

    d.k red-headed stepchild

    * Oh, Becky- I'm so sorry, hon. Do you have family, friends, a church family? I don't know what to say, but, I did say a little prayer for help for you and Josh.
     
  3. cjeanean

    cjeanean Can't Decide

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    I'm so sorry to hear that!! I know that's gotta be tough, and I don't really have anything to make you feel better cause nothing really helps, but know that people care and want the best for you!!! [​IMG]
     
  4. Frogdogtimestwo

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  5. Davaroo

    Davaroo Poultry Crank

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    I'm proud of him and you. Ive been the husband going away.

    Your husband is a hero. You are a hero's wife.
    Hold your head up, my dear, and know that we are with you.

    Semper Fi.
     
  6. GwenFarms

    GwenFarms Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I'm so sorry. I'm 4 months pg too and I know it has to be hard to handle. PM me if you want to talk.
     
  7. Becky89*

    Becky89* Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Ever since Josh got that call around noon he hasn't said very much at all to me. When he's near me, he just wraps his arms around me and the baby. I think he's scared for my safety because he knows that once I leaves my side monday I am on my own to protect myself and the baby from my abusive father.


    When Josh leaves I will write to him I will do everything I can to comfort him and stay strong for him.

    This morning we were picking out baby names and now when I go to bed its going to be silence because I refuse to cry infront of or around Josh if I can hide it. He doesn't like me hidding it from him but now is not the time to cry infront of the man I love.

    I will try to hold my head up high, Josh has always been my hero and he always will be!!!
     
  8. Cetawin

    Cetawin Chicken Beader

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    ****Hugs***** Becky....my DH and I were in the same country only 10 months during the first 4 years of our marriage and they were not all consecutive months. We married March 10, 2001 and he was in school until August 17th and was gone for 16 months starting September 19th of that same year. I KNOW how you feel.

    The only way to get through this is to have faith and pray each day. Do NOT dwell on it because you will make yourself crazy and possibly cause issues with the pregnancy. Your job now is to keep the faith and keep the baby safe.

    Send him off with a smile, your love and the knowledge that you WILL be okay. The last thing he will need his the extra worry of you/baby by an emotional scene. Trust me, he will worry anyway so try not to make it harder for him. It is his job and you knew it when you married him so stand strong. Hold him, hug him, tell him you love him and cry now....put it (your fears) in a place on a shelf when you say "SEE YA SOON" do not say Goodbye because it is not goodbye. My husband and I always hugged, kissed, smiled at each other and said "Later Baby"

    Being a military wife is the hardest job in the world some days because you are the one keeping home and hearth together and waiting.

    It is nowhere near as dangerous today as it was several years ago...trust and believe that he will return. You will survive this ****HUGS*****

    Wife of a retired Green Beret
     
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  10. warcard

    warcard Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Hi Becky,
    I posted this on another thread, but thought you might be more likely to read your own thread.

    If you husband is active duty get to your base legal office and family readiness center now! (as in before you read this post [​IMG] ). They can help you get away from your father and find safe housing and assistance while your husband is deployed.

    If he is Guard there should still be a family readiness group in the unit, and someone should be able to help you find help.

    Sending prayers to You, Josh, and your unborn.
    Jennifer (former active duty AF) & wife of an Army NG Soldier
    PS If you can live on a base that would be best, your father would have to get through the MPs to get to you, and they don't take kindly to abuse.

    PPS Everyone else gave great advice on how to deal with him leaving. The family readiness center/group is a great place to get help, support, and just talk to other people who are going through the same thing.
     

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