- Aug 14, 2008
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Hello. My husband is a contractor working in Iraq. He has been there for a year today. I know it is scary, especially with a baby on the way, but you have to find a way for yourself to relax. The stress is no good for the baby. My husband is able to call, email, IM, everyday. He lives on military bases so if your husband has a lap top he should be able to contact you regularly. Do you have family nearby? Maybe you could have someone come stay with you for a couple weeks when he goes, and then for a few weeks before the baby is due to be born. I knwo that you are scared that is normal, but you have to be strong, you knew he was a Marine when you married him, and that may even be part of what attracted you to him. So show him your support. This next suggestion may upset some of you but here is my opinion. Try not to lay too much at your husbands feet. Believe me he is just as worried scared nervous and anxious as you are, but he signed up for military duty and he neeeds to know that you will be ok at home while he is away. Vent to friends, relatives, websites, but try not to fall apart in front of him. Tell him your fears, tell him how much you will miss him, but always remind him that you will make it and you will keep things together while he is gone. It is very hard on them being so far away, they worry every day about bullets, bombs, and family. Especially their wives, he will hear many stories about wives leaving, about wives cheating, and there will be days that you will hear about it to deployed members cheating and such. Just hold him in your heart and lean on your family, you will get through it.