husbands sister needs to go rant

[Orchid]

I should probably explain my previous post about being long gone just a little.

In my opinion, when you get married, the person you marry (and any children you have) becomes your family. At that point everyone else is just relatives. It is your husband's job to stand by you, his wife, and in no way should he ever tell you that it's okay for someone to yell at you and disrespect you. At that point HE should be angry on your behalf and HE should be the one telling them to leave and not let the door hit them on the way out.

So to my mind, there is more wrong in this situation than just the relatives who are staying with you - not that there's not plenty enough wrong with them, too.

Have some respect for yourself and you may find that others begin to have some, as well.

Best of luck to you in a difficult situation.

 

[HeatherLynn]

Seriously, I think I would move out for a week. Don't say anything, just move. If you have kids, move them with you. Go stay with your family for a bit. Let him deal with them and wonder if your coming back. If he asks, let him know that life is too short to live that way. You had no issues helping because they were his family but when it came down do him laying you on the floor to act as doormat the line was crossed. Guys can be dense at time. Visuals always help.

 

[bald k9]

sounds like you need to take a long vacation in hawaii and let your husband take clean up after them ,and care for them, until he see's for himself what they are like, And if they are not gone by time you get back, you are staying in hawaii!!lol

 

[mhwc56]

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EXACTLY what i was attempting to say...

 

[punk-a-doodle]

I would be...so not sure of my decision on who I married at that point. I'd do counceling if he was willing, or else it might be time for me to move on. Just my passing opinion.

 

[thechickenchick]

Sounds to me like you have been nice long enough! Tell DH someone is moving, them or you! Period!!

 

[JulieNKC]

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This. Hubby needs to have your back. If he doesn't, I suggest taking a vacation to go see your relatives for a few weeks to give him time to come to his senses. It's your family's house, your relatives need to respect your rules or go somewhere else.

 

[Dar]

hubby would be out on his tushie too!

 

[zippitydooda]

Why is it the nice people always get taken advantage of? Man, I hate that they have absolutely NO respect for you or your home.

I can not believe the rest of his family has the nerve to say YOU don't pay for anything. Do they think that because you stay home and take care of the children, house, laundry, cooking, bills, animals, errands, etc. etc. etc. that is not equal to bringing home a paycheck? Add up what it would cost to pay people for each and every job you do, and you will see that YOU are the one who is carrying the load. Send your husband the bill and take your two week vacation. I would pack my bags and leave HIM (and the no good relatives) to fend for themselves. Leave them with the kids, the undone laundry, an empty fridge and take off. Find a neighbor to take care of the animals if you don't trust them to care for them.

TAKE A BREAK. Sometimes stepping back from a situation and relaxing helps you get a better perspective of the situation.

So sorry you are going through this. Stand your ground. People will only treat you how YOU allow them to.

 

[turney31]

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This....Oh me too!