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There is something to be said for knowing how to do something on your own - not necessarily 
by yourself, but 
knowing the processes and procedures.  Does that make sense?  I really do appreciate it when my hubby offers to do something for me, but I much prefer that he just help.  Not just because I enjoy working with him, but also because I don't want to be reliant on him being where I need him, when I need him.  The same goes for him, too!  He knows how to cook and can (still working on "cleaning"
) and I know how to use a chainsaw, split wood (still working on that:/), change a tire, etc.  We 
both manage the finances.  While it would not be pleasant for one of us to be temporarily unavailable (like when he had a family situation that kept him away for nearly 2 weeks), either one of us would manage alone.  Too often, when a spouse is not available (temporarily or permanent) it's then that the other spouse realizes just how many things they had relied on the other to do; how many things they don't know how to do for themselves.  In times of unpleasantness (or upheaval or grief), there is no need for the added distress of realizing you can't start up the tiller or that he can't cook the foods that comfort him best.  For that nearly 2 weeks, the only thing that I had real trouble with were the jar lids that he put on too tight 
 Go figure! 
My husband has been deployed to Iraq three times now.. each time was for about a year.. lol.. good thing I can handle living alone just fine and know how to do the plumbing, electrical and carpentry jobs that spring up
I understand that, I have strived to stay on top of how to do things. That is is a good thing since DH will be at the west house for awhile since there is a Parvo outbreak out there. NO coming to this South house for awhile until he and the vet gets a handle on the problem. Sad thing is the shots are not working on the new strain. SO Byrd is lossing some of his high dollar Rotts.
The funny thing is I meet him in twon and give home things he misses from the South house, like homemade cookies every weekend.