I am happy and sad

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Boyd, Jul 3, 2010.

  1. Boyd

    Boyd Recipient of The Biff Twang

    Mar 14, 2009
    MI
    I left a lot unsaid when I told everyone my wife had my son 6 weeks early via C section. Her water broke 7 weeks early, they gave her steroid shots, antibiotics etc so she could hold off on having the baby too early. So saturday they induced labor, and they let a resident put in a probe to listen to heart rate since the belly one on the wife's exterior wasn't working so hot with the petocin workin overtime. Apparently the probe he put in wasn't good so the resident had to redo it... well thankfully there were 3 attending doctors and 4 nurses in the room. Wife screaming.. Doctor shaking and wife says you put a hole in me.

    Baby born 4 minutes later.

    Apparently 2nd probe did in fact poke through something and causing the placenta to seperate. It was close, but they stopped the bleeding with my wife.

    Fast forward to thursday. Doc tells her due to complications due to surgery (the doc missing and poking a new hole in the cervix) that we are likely unable to have more kids. She'll never carry another to term more than likely.

    I am so mad for the last 2 days I am seeing red. All I want is to confront this doc and tell him his inexperience has made it unlikely that me and the wife will ever have another child... I almost lost my only other biological one to cancer, and will never have grand babies from him, and my son Tim (the newest) will be my last.

    Am I wrong for being so angry and devising empty hollow plans of revenge? I am beyond grief, and am happy for the 2 sons I have, but he took away our ability to have a daughter...
     
  2. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    Ahh Boyd.. [​IMG] [​IMG]
    I'm so sorry! [​IMG]
     
  3. NoseyChickens

    NoseyChickens Feathers On The Ground

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    Oh Boyd I am so sorry as well. It's heartbreaking. Yes, you have every right to be angry. So so sorry for you and your family.
     
  4. calicokat

    calicokat Songster

    Apr 2, 2009
    azalia, indiana
    No you're not wrong to feel this way.

    We almost lost me with our last baby due to internal hemmoraging after the birth that went undetected for hours. After fixing me, we were advised that there should be no more children, they couldn't guarentee I'd be able to safely deliver again (as if this one was safe!)

    It hurts when that choice is taken from you. It's one thing if you look and say, "yep, all our angels are here, our family is complete, we're done." But when it is taken from you due to someone else's carelessness or inexperience, all you have left is the "Why's"
     
  5. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    That doctor needs to be out of the medical field before he does far worse to someone else.
     
  6. Boyd, I so sorry. Yes, if it was your decision that's one thing...but to have that decision taken away is quite another. I would be angry too. Don't give up all hope no matter what they have told you. God is still in the miracle business!!
     
  7. Boyd

    Boyd Recipient of The Biff Twang

    Mar 14, 2009
    MI
    Quote:they told us that heavy progestrin doses after 20 weeks would help but she'd never be able to carry a baby to full term [​IMG]
     
  8. lovesduckies

    lovesduckies Bedroom Farm Inc.

    Jan 11, 2010
    the ducky room
    awe Boyd, i'm sooooo sorry. i would be mad too. i agree with Debi. that doc is a dummy and should be allowed to practice anymore [​IMG]


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  9. Boyd

    Boyd Recipient of The Biff Twang

    Mar 14, 2009
    MI
    Quote:On the other hand, thats how residents gain experience... by practicing in front of a group of trained individuals. We lost the roll of the dice and came up craps. Hope he gets to keep his gonads. Thankfully the wife has my keys to my safe [​IMG] I love her practicality at times like these.
     
  10. turney31

    turney31 Songster

    Sep 14, 2008
    palestine texas
    Boyd I am so sorry! You have every right to be angry. I believe in miracles.

    Micah
     

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