I dont know how she is going to handle this. AND!!!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Rhett&SarahsMom, Feb 16, 2009.

  1. Rhett&SarahsMom

    Rhett&SarahsMom Songster

    May 8, 2008
    Other than she has NO choice other wise.

    My mom called me yesterday morning. My sister, who is due with their first baby was at the hospital and wanted us there. A surprise since she was telling me just a few weeks ago that she wanted NO ONE there except her dh. I am talking not even in the hospital waiting area!

    So we went down to hang out with my mom. After a few minutes her dh comes out and tells us "false labor" But. They are keeping her a few days since she had a full out panic attack. Her EDD is March 2nd.

    She has insisted on going to ALL the available childbirth, baby and parenting classes. Although I dont know if they have taken the CPR one. Which they should.
    Two weeks ago they went to another child birth class and learned about what a c section entails. [​IMG] While I agree with being informed and all.. my sister REALLY didnt need to know about that.
    They watched a video. And she FREAKED.
    Of course she wouldnt call me and talk to me about this, even though I had a c sect 6 years ago with my own dd. But I am thinking it might be good that she didnt. Since when my mom told me I laughed.

    Then she saw a video of an actual birth. More freaking out ensued.
    I mean really.. what did she think was going to happen? A stork was going to come and drop a blanket wrapped bundle on her door step?? She isnt a kid. She's going to be 35 in May!

    Anyway. We got to see her for a few minutes. They have her on an IV since she was dehydrated a bit. No idea what, if anything they can give her for a panic attack. But I can tell you. Now my mom is finally getting what I have been saying since she announced she was pregnant. And what my obg told me to watch for with her.

    I really dont think this is going to be easy for her. The birth OR being an actual mom. I will try to not laugh at her too much.. but goddess she is going to be entertaining through this process.

    I am going to have a NIECE!!!!! Just spoke with my sister and she told me!!!!
    They asked the doctor to tell them, to have something else to focus on and maybe calm her down some!!!!!
    Last edited: Feb 16, 2009

  2. chickn

    chickn Away for a bit

    Apr 15, 2008
    New Hampshire
    didnt you find that it all was more frightening the second time around?> then you really knew what you were in for!!

    sometimes to much info isnt such a good thing
  3. Rhett&SarahsMom

    Rhett&SarahsMom Songster

    May 8, 2008
    Quote:I only have one.Truly a surprise since the doctors had been telling me that I would need help getting and staying pregnant. Multiple(5 in 3 years) miscarriages. Plus I was NOT good at the whole pregnancy thing.
    I spent more time praising the porcelain god when I was pregnant than in all my time in HS and college. Nothing stayed down. Not fun.
  4. ams3651

    ams3651 Songster

    Jan 23, 2008
    NE PA
    when i was pregnant with my first at just 18 they knew all along I was going to have to have a c section and never told me till the day before. I hadnt pain attention to that part of class because, geeeshhh....I wasnt having one. So im in the hosp and sent my mom home to get the book from class so I can find out whats going on. I wish they would have told me earlier, even just a month earlier. My second one didnt scare me because I did know what to expect. And most of the moms I know feel the same way, at some point mom hormones kick in and you forget about how much pain it was. My cousin was like your sister, only it was mostly after the baby was born. Nobody could touch her, feed her or care for her like she could and nobody did it right. Try to be there for her and distract her or help her as a mom who has already been around the block.
  5. Katy

    Katy Flock Mistress

    Quote:My 2nd and 3rd were easier because I did know what was going to happen and I was prepared for it. I don't care how many childbirth classes you take.....until you go through it you don't have a clue!!!
  6. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Is she a bit of a prima donna? She may lose that in the first few months. [​IMG]
  7. Rhett&SarahsMom

    Rhett&SarahsMom Songster

    May 8, 2008
    Quote:No, not a "bit"
    A HUGE Prima Donna! Gonna be fun to watch, but I am suddenly glad I dont live closer to home

  8. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    I would love to see a picture of her after two months with spit on her shirt, hair undone and no makeup on with black circles under her eyes making hamburger helper for her husband!
  9. FrenchHen

    FrenchHen Chicken Ambassador

    Jan 26, 2009
    Bagshot Row
    It's funny to see how my peers have done with the new baby thing. We're pretty laid back people and while it wasn't easy, we had good birth experiences and transitioned pretty well into parenting.

    I know an OCD type who had a tremendous job adjusting. Because of expectations that it be "just so," there was no flexibility for the myriad of things that birth and parenting entails.

    I didn't watch the videos in class and I trained myself not to think about it.

    When the baby comes they can give her meds for anxiety if she needs them. I had some for depression after my first, and they were so helpful!
  10. Rosalind

    Rosalind Songster

    Mar 25, 2007
    If this type of theater was going on in my family, I'm not sure if I would die from the embarrassment of sharing their gene pool or if I would perish of asphyxiation from laughing so hard.

    True story: I was TA-ing a general education science class, in which we talked about the effects of various hormones on the body. Two grown adult women brought their children to study sessions with them. Same grown adult women did not know about the birds and the bees, except in the most abstract "mommy and daddy love each other very very much" way. One thought that testicles were, like, one for eggs and one for sperm, and that the two just conveniently combined in the uterus. One didn't realize what menstruation was, or that you were SUPPOSED to do it monthly. We're talking, women older than me, with kids old enough to be in middle school. You'd think the OB/Gyn would have clued them in at some point, right? No. It was really, really tough to keep a straight face AND keep all the snotty 19-year-olds from being horrible, too, and repeat the same talk I gave DH's 13-year-old stepsister to women in their late 30s/early 40s.

    You gotta tell us--out of the whole classroom of ladies, was she the only one who wasn't going, "awwwww, whatta miracle!"

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