I have had the same problem. I've spent hours staring down watching temperature readings fluctuate all over the place (with eggs in there!!). I've noticed that the ones that update really fast are the ones that show a bunch of fluctuation. And the ones that update slower are showing more of an average. So you can't really go by the really accurate ones that update quickly until your incubator is really stabilized. Also, I've discovered that it is absolutely useless to try to measure temps with any thermometer if the incubator isn't stable. All of them fluctuate too much at different rates of update.
My final solution was to get the incubator stable (which can take a LONG time) with several thermometers in it while it is EMPTY at my chosen humidity (I do 45 percent). And then check it. I found out most of them (you wouldn't believe how many thermometers I've accumulated) read very close to the same temperature. (Most of mine I got from Incubator Whse - different varieties). Then once the eggs are in there, I DON'T ADJUST THE TEMP AT ALL. I have a cheapy styrofoam incubator that has an extremely touchy thermostat. I regulate the temp by putting a towel over one or both of the windows to raise it, or remove it to lower it. And the acid test is when the chicks start hatching. If it is 21 days, the temp is close enough. This wouldn't work in a room that doesn't have stable temperature, but I have mine in a spare bedroom that is temperature controlled.
Anyway, I know how frustrating it is to not trust your thermometer!! Hang in there!!