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Thank you all for listening, sorry I haven't gotten back here sooner. Busy with Christmas and snow.
I have been more or less a loner all my life. I like being with people and have fun in groups, but I LOVE my alone time. I have gotten VERY picky as I grow older. I don't want to be around people that I don't like, have different morals and ethics, are idiots. I have no patience for that any longer.
I was brought up to think of EVERYONE else first, and to ALWAYS put myself and my needs last. That got me into situations that brought a lot of heartache and grief into my life. After I finally got rid of my ex and met my now DH, he helped me to get everyone to stop using me and walking all over me.
A lot of people don't like it, because now I do what makes me happy and not what makes them happy. I tell them what needs to be said and what they need to hear. I try to do it nicely still though.
Yes, I do many crafts, write, sew (not expertly though), my best and favorite thing though is cooking ad baking. I have looked into etsy, but I have no credit card, I thought about talking to my sister, she has one and does quilts and sew expertly, one of her DIL's does many crafts also. Maybe we could do a joint (I don't remember what etsy calls it) shop.
It bothers DH that I am alone so much and not socializing, I talk to my neighbors, schoolbus drivers, and you all. That's fine with me. He doesn't want strangers in our house, we have a lot of firearms and other very expensive things. We live away from the nearest small town and I am home alone mostly. As I said I just took a womans defensive handgun class so I am better prepared if something happens, I just have to remember to carry my gun when alone outside. I can understand his not wanting strangers here, we are both private people.
If we had lots of money, I would follow my dream of opening a small resteraunt. That and publishing are most important. I am almost finished with a novella I have been writing. I have three more chapters to finish, then I can start the awful process of rejection letters. I know, think positive!
WE worry about our daughter in Afghanistan, but at least she doesn't leave the base much. She will be home the end of May. We are VERY proud of her. When we got attacked, our families had seven kids that could have gone into the military and helped our country. One got talked out of it by his alcoholic, drug addicted father. Later on our daughter that had just had another baby (making three, under five)inlisted. She wanted to make a better future for her kids. Her whole life has fallen apart twice since the decision, but she is doing the right thing for her and her kids. She has just decided to re-inlist and go carreer. She is in school now for phychology(as she was before joining), then she is going OCS and working towards Criminal Investigation in the army. She is so proud to be serving her country and it has been very hard on her to be seperated from her children.
She spent 1 1/2 yrs. away from them getting training, her youngest was just a yr. old. I cannot imagine leaving at that time, but understand. Some of you ight know of what we have been going through the last two months. She came home on leave because her husband filied for divorce, she brought the kids here for us to take care of while she was gone. The two little ones we had to give up by court order to their abusive/ negletful father, because no one can prove that anything has happened. They are now in OR, we in CA, he is letting us talk to them on the weekends. But is not folowing the court oreder to allow their mother to talk to them! He loves his court orders unless they say something he doesn't like, then he ignors them. She hasn't talked to the in almost a month! I don't want to ream his A** because then we won't be able to have contact.
We have her son( he is from a different marriage, KIDS!). He has problems, from being shifted around his whole life. We have permanent guardainship of our oldest grandaughter, so that helps him a lot. He misses his sisters and his mom and has MANY issues with the last two men he called father. 6 months is not long enough for us to do much good for him, but I think the bond that will grow between the two kid will last forever.
I better stop, I have been going too long. Thanks for listening.
Monica
I have been more or less a loner all my life. I like being with people and have fun in groups, but I LOVE my alone time. I have gotten VERY picky as I grow older. I don't want to be around people that I don't like, have different morals and ethics, are idiots. I have no patience for that any longer.
I was brought up to think of EVERYONE else first, and to ALWAYS put myself and my needs last. That got me into situations that brought a lot of heartache and grief into my life. After I finally got rid of my ex and met my now DH, he helped me to get everyone to stop using me and walking all over me.
A lot of people don't like it, because now I do what makes me happy and not what makes them happy. I tell them what needs to be said and what they need to hear. I try to do it nicely still though.
Yes, I do many crafts, write, sew (not expertly though), my best and favorite thing though is cooking ad baking. I have looked into etsy, but I have no credit card, I thought about talking to my sister, she has one and does quilts and sew expertly, one of her DIL's does many crafts also. Maybe we could do a joint (I don't remember what etsy calls it) shop.
It bothers DH that I am alone so much and not socializing, I talk to my neighbors, schoolbus drivers, and you all. That's fine with me. He doesn't want strangers in our house, we have a lot of firearms and other very expensive things. We live away from the nearest small town and I am home alone mostly. As I said I just took a womans defensive handgun class so I am better prepared if something happens, I just have to remember to carry my gun when alone outside. I can understand his not wanting strangers here, we are both private people.
If we had lots of money, I would follow my dream of opening a small resteraunt. That and publishing are most important. I am almost finished with a novella I have been writing. I have three more chapters to finish, then I can start the awful process of rejection letters. I know, think positive!
WE worry about our daughter in Afghanistan, but at least she doesn't leave the base much. She will be home the end of May. We are VERY proud of her. When we got attacked, our families had seven kids that could have gone into the military and helped our country. One got talked out of it by his alcoholic, drug addicted father. Later on our daughter that had just had another baby (making three, under five)inlisted. She wanted to make a better future for her kids. Her whole life has fallen apart twice since the decision, but she is doing the right thing for her and her kids. She has just decided to re-inlist and go carreer. She is in school now for phychology(as she was before joining), then she is going OCS and working towards Criminal Investigation in the army. She is so proud to be serving her country and it has been very hard on her to be seperated from her children.
She spent 1 1/2 yrs. away from them getting training, her youngest was just a yr. old. I cannot imagine leaving at that time, but understand. Some of you ight know of what we have been going through the last two months. She came home on leave because her husband filied for divorce, she brought the kids here for us to take care of while she was gone. The two little ones we had to give up by court order to their abusive/ negletful father, because no one can prove that anything has happened. They are now in OR, we in CA, he is letting us talk to them on the weekends. But is not folowing the court oreder to allow their mother to talk to them! He loves his court orders unless they say something he doesn't like, then he ignors them. She hasn't talked to the in almost a month! I don't want to ream his A** because then we won't be able to have contact.
We have her son( he is from a different marriage, KIDS!). He has problems, from being shifted around his whole life. We have permanent guardainship of our oldest grandaughter, so that helps him a lot. He misses his sisters and his mom and has MANY issues with the last two men he called father. 6 months is not long enough for us to do much good for him, but I think the bond that will grow between the two kid will last forever.
I better stop, I have been going too long. Thanks for listening.
Monica
