I have noticed this about BYC...

[BarkerChickens]

It's sad to say, but I think some people get their kicks by invoking a fight.

By fight I mean fight, not discussions of opposing opinions, which can be healthy.

Can't we all just hug and get along?

 

[jnjross]

i agree there are certain members that tend to be abrasive. just avoid/ignor them

if you're tired of answering the same question, don't! there are other memebers that WILL respond in a constructive manner!

 

[mountaintopchicken]

I think one of the worst aspects of this, is when people respond to one of your well-meaning posts with a lot of negativity out of nowhere.

A couple of times, or maybe more than that, I've put a lot of effort into carefully answering someones question in the best way I knew, only to get anger or sarcasm in return. I had tried to word everything so it sounded friendly, non confrontational, and helpful, so I couldn't understand where the negative response came from.

 

[vfem]

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That's priceless! LOL

 

[WiseChicks]

I agree in part that the "Lack" of inflection in the written word can create a lot of problems, even with "smilies". (Different people interpret different smilies to convey different meanings.)

Something a person may mean in a kidding way, can be taken as snide; or a straightforward questions can be taken as an "Are you so dense you didn't even think about ---------?!"

Goattalker - (And I'm gonna use this since you and I were on both threads)
when I asked about the joint meds, your reply struck me as "Are you so clueless that you'd buy dogs that are broken/worthless?!" Even though re-reading it later I realized that probably wasn't what you meant.

I asked about a specific subject, and it makes me nuts (pet peeve) when people go off and give me advice on other things, not related to what I asked.

I will be the first to admit, I can get off track, too; and I hope that if I step on someone's toes they'll say something.

I think disagreeing on a subject is fine, especially if you can provide verifiable facts, or state clearly that something is ONLY YOUR OPINION. Big difference between the 2. Doesn't mean I won't listen to something that is someone's opinion, but I am not going to weigh it quite the same way that I would a verifiable 'fact'.

So, with that being said, ya'll can take my post and do as you'd like:

or

Katie

 

[redhen]

remember it goes both ways.... if we want people to be nice to us...we have to remember to treat them the same way we want to be treated..

thats my bit of sage advice for the day...*free of charge, of course.*

 

[luvzmybabz]

OK well..............I will have to admit that there seems to be some serious HTT (holiwer than thou) syndrome going on sometimes. I once was in a huge hurry ( take note I am not even that grammar prefect in real life) and Instead of ignoring the question or giving an answer the person that responded to my post went on and on trashing my grammar. I got furious typed a just as nasty reply then deleted it all, and asked a moderator to remove the thread. I explained that I posted that I needed information on something ( can't even remember what it was now, and she politely removed it for me. Since then my time on BYC is spent in 2 places, other pet.... and the okie thread. I do know that there has been long time member that have completely quit over this same issue. I believe she is dyslexic (sp). I have other board that I post alot more on at least there I do not get bashed for bad grammar. I sometimes use my phone to get on the internet and I am almost afraid to post here using my phone, as I can tell you my grammar puncuation and such are even worse when my keyboard is 2 inches square.

Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion. Many people would not care for the ways that I take care of my animals those same people I probably could find a thing or 2 to fuss about to them. Many people get on these boards looking for a definite answer however we are a varied group and the correct answer for one person does not necessarily the same for everyone. I do not think anyone should come to any animal board for an answer ( GO TO THE VET FOR THAT) but to ask advise and opinions. The people answering should give advise or opinion or just keep it closed of course there are those like some members of my family that thrive on drama. Since I am not one of those people I spend MUCH less time on this board due to RUDE people.

2 cents worth
Kasi

 

[B. Saffles Farms]

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I agree with this statement 100%. Dont tell me I am wrong about something when I know it works for me. I think everyone could learn something if they would open thier minds and listen to how others do things. My ways arent always the best ways but I am willing to listen to another way. If its better then I will be changing my way.

 

[Goattalker]

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Absolutely that wasn't my point. My point was, OMG she has puppies that need joint meds, what will they be when they are 2 years old. Had I had a clue that you were looking to supplement growth, it would have been a different situation all together, and there in lies the problem with boards, and the Internet. People want you to know what they mean with few facts, and are offended when you don't.

Katie, this thread was not directed at you, it is the accumulation of my experience, and a concern for the tone-positive/negative that I have observed.

To answer the question about where the negativity has been seen-it is only within the Other Animals thread, and specifically where it involves dogs and goats.

 

[TheOLDNewChick]

Welcome to the big, wide world of a PUBLIC FORUM.

No one can see it any one way. You'll get ticked off enough and say something confrontational to someone else because of opposing viewpoints, I promise. It happens. Not everyone is going to be the exact same way. Hitler tried that, and failed. Terribly.

So, I guess it's something we all have to get used to. It happens.