I know I am being selfish and it drives me crazy but I can't help it..

[Laskaland]

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I'm curious. what condition does your son have? How come he can live where you are and not closer to hubby? Does he need to be near a Children's hospital or something?
Christina

He has severe, uncontrollable asthma. Cold and high elevations are two of his biggest triggers. My husband is stationed in Colorado. So far he has been hospitalized 8 times because of his asthma (about a week each time with one lasting a month) and he is 7.

AHHH. Wow Colorado would SOOOO NOOOOTTTT be the area for the poor guy. My m-i-l goes to a specialist in Colorado a couple times a year and has to take oxygen, where normally there is no issue. Does he take breathing treatments then?
Hugs!
Christina

 

[luvmychicknkids]

She lives in South Dakota. LOL yeah, as much as I despise her I wouldn't put the address.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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He has severe, uncontrollable asthma. Cold and high elevations are two of his biggest triggers. My husband is stationed in Colorado. So far he has been hospitalized 8 times because of his asthma (about a week each time with one lasting a month) and he is 7.

AHHH. Wow Colorado would SOOOO NOOOOTTTT be the area for the poor guy. My m-i-l goes to a specialist in Colorado a couple times a year and has to take oxygen, where normally there is no issue. Does he take breathing treatments then?
Hugs!
Christina

Oh yes. He also has three medications he takes every day, we have a nebulizer for when things get real bad. He just got off steroids AGAIN.....it has been pretty rough. He is such a tiny little thing. It always makes me sad when he takes steroids and his face looks chubby afterward.

 

[moodusnewchick]

you can post the address. your BYC friends will take care of her.

 

[BeckyLa]

This may be a totally dumb question coming from someone who knows absolutely nothing about the military, but could your dh possibly put in for a transfer due to family hardship or something, to someplace that would be ok for your son? Man, there's just gotta be a way for y'all to be together!!

 

[debilorrah]

Asthma is a serious thing when it is that bad and they are that young. The best news is that it will probably get better as he gets older. With asthma that severe it won't go away, but better. I have friend whose 3 year old daughter is that bad and it is really heartbreaking.

 

[rooster-red]

I've tried to wrap my head around the situation as best I can from what you've told us, and given that this has already gone on for 2 years, and being a husband and father myself, I can tell you what I would've done, for whatever its worth.

I would have told Mom that I'd like to spent this thanksgiving with my wife and kids, do you mind me changing the destination on the ticket?

If the answer was no, go ahead, all would be good.

If the answer was yes, I mind, then I would tell her I'm not going to use the ticket, suck it up, be a man, and spend thanksgiving alone on the phone with my family.

I mean no disrespect to anyone serving in the military, nor to imply that your hubby has no backbone, just relating what I would have done.

When my wife and I got married there was a disagreement between the families about the wedding arrangments, after a week of them fighting I stepped in and told both families that I would pay for everything and I would pick the time and place, and they were not invited to attend, though they were welcome to come to the reception afterwards.

It was hard to do, but it was quite a lesson for the families, neither tried to step in the way again.

 

[Laskaland]

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Yeah...depending where in SD...I live an hour from the border

Christina

 

[baldie]

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Or her e-mail address!!! Theres a backyard chickens posse that will surely give her a piece of their mind!!!

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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Oh it doesn't sound dumb at all.

I used to be naive enough to think the military actually cared. They don't. When we got orders to Colorado we tried everything we could for 6 months to get sent somewhere else. They refused. Their answer, there are plenty of hospitals and pulmonoligists in the Denver area. Even if he has to live in the hospital they can keep him alive so we HAD to go there. That is when we decided we had to live apart.