I Lost My Best Friend My Husband Bill

[love_a_duck]

You know I was so worried that once his rating had gone through and increased that something horrible was going to happen. I even told him that. He said I worry to much. First my mom, then my dad and then Bill. And that rating is nothing. Most of it is going to be nonexistant now and I've lost all three of them. Maybe it's me. It couldn't be anyone else. Everyone is gone. I just don't get it. We've been through so much the past few years and just when Bill said he saw the light at the end of the tunnel for us..............there's no more us.

Wolftracks,
I don't understand why you think that 100% rating is nothing. What did I miss? Are you his spouse? Then you get benefits! If he adopted the kids or you can prove he raised them, they get benefits!
Two of my children (I am 100% unemployable) are getting over $900.00 dollars per month to attend a VA approved college, they also receive extra monies from Michigan because they are the dependents of a 100% veteran, whether deceased or not. His benefits do not end when he dies, as mine will not end when I die.

Call the 1800 827 1000 number, talk to a counselor there and they will gladly send you a copy of the verification or award letter.

Please, please call the counselor that worked with him to get his award compensation, he can help guide you through this.

I know this is difficult for you now, but don't let your depression (i have it too) keep you from giving that honorable veteran the funeral and service he so richly deserves.

If you cannot concentrate right now, please find someone who can sit on the phone, and keep talking till you get the answers you like. Never say die.

and one of the Army mottos

"Always Forward"


Sending you strength and good vibes from Michigan.

Beth​

 

[bargain]

Honey my thoughts and prayers are with you. God hold you and your family tight in His mighty hands. Nothing I can say can replace your loss other than give your feelings a chance to come out. I just cannot imagine what it would be to have this happen. You are in a safe and loving environment that cares about you. Take care. Nancy

 

[DragonEggs]

How are you doing?

 

[wolftracks]

It's taken forever to get things arranged.

We missed a deadline for a special booklet that we were passing out. I STILL can't find his pictures, but his family just emailed some yesterday.

A good thing happened yesterday.

Bill had 4 children. He hadn't talked to any of them since before I met him, but he wanted to.

Long story shor.

Been talking to his daughter since day one. Yesterday has 23 yr old son called.

We came up with money for his daughter to get here but never expected the others and he may be able to make it!

Maybe we'll get the other 2. Maybe it was time to get brothers and sisters together for the first time ever.




We're doing a viewing on Friday at from 8:30am - 9:30pm and a Graveside service at Sacramento Valley National Cemetary at 12:30.

Friday would be our 11th anniversary. I couldn't let him go until then.

We loved Texas Roadhouse, so after the services we're all going there and my daughter is working on a special menu that people can order from so we can budget. Bill always ordered roadkill. LOL I want to see if anyone else orders it. We had just driven by this one. It's near Travis AFB and we were going to go there the next time we went to the exchange. It's kind of fitting.

 

[wolftracks]

oh oh oh.........His son is 23!

He's eligible for school too! Correct??? He's in PA!

Someone who knows let me know. Please!!!!!

Gotta go buy Bill something to wear. Dress Blues were over $700. We don't have it, but He looked nice in a dress shirt and tie, so buying a black shirt and gold tie.

OK......someone in the know tell me I can help his son.

Kim

 

[QuinnP]

its been 10 years since the death of my first hubby, & I think of him every day & miss him still.................. take care

 

[AmCanyonStables]

I know many members of the volunteer honor guard at the Sacramento Valley National Cemetary. They are very knowledgeable about benefits, or they will know who is, so ask them after the service. I agree with others here also that the best advice is to get his therapist to refer you to a good veterans benefits rep in your area. I think his son may be too old for the school benefits, but I am not totally sure.
So sorry for your loss - I'm sure he was a great guy - combat veterans may have some issues, but they are some of the most loyal, honorable, and good hearted people I have ever met.
Sounds like he was one of those, and eventually you will be able to remember him with joy rather than sadness.
His brothers at the cemetary will take care of him, and send him on with respect and love.

 

[chick4chicks]

, There are a lot of people that care about you on here, I hope this gives you some comfort. It is devastating for you and the Family I know. You are all in my Thoughts and Prayers. One day at a time. Take care.

 

[Leia's Chickens]

I'm so sorry for you!

Take care and best wishes!

 

[DragonEggs]

I was trying to surprise you with those little rumpless roos we both loved so much. They started crowing and now she has to get rid of them. Unfortunatly I haven't been able to find anyone en route so they might be going on craigslist.

You're closer to them than I am and I really wanted them for you, kind of the BYC way of sending flowers.

Sounds like you are doing the best that you can with what you have. Humble people aren't dazzled by fancy things, everyone will appreciate everything no matter what.