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I've worked full time for 36 years, and most of it on contract, so I've worked a *lot* of places. in that time I've quit 3 jobs for ethical reasons. each time I had to weigh what was the *right* thing for the company to be doing and if their behavior was below the appropriate ethical line, but also *could* I be of continuing service to others there, *would* the abuse and stress I'd sustain be worth what I could provide to others, and *if* I was prepared and able to pay that price.
if I could do no further good, or could not sustain the pain and price of doing it, then it was time to be out.
sometimes you can continue to work for the better from the inside. sometimes you can't. it's a difficult and personal decision, one only the individual at the center of it can make.
MamaRoo: yes, the animals have lost a defender. that's true. however, you aren't in the OPs shoes, and do not know all that brought her to that moment of decision. there comes a point where an individual has, in fact, done all they can do. not all that could theoretically be done, perhaps, or all that *you* personally might do, but nonetheless, they, personally, are done.
I don't know what your intent was, but your comment came across as judgemental and rather flip. I'm not opposed to jugement where it's earned, but had I been on the receiving side of that, I think I might be more than a little cross about it.
easy to make such statements from outside. not so easy for the OP to live with either staying or quiting. might she have acted differently? perhaps, but she's got to live in her skin with her choices and I'm sure that's not going to be defined as "happy". been there, done it, it's not easy, and hindsight provides it's own challenges for living with.
guess my point is smacking the OP around doesn't seem useful under the circumstances. not to her, not to the animals. if you've got something that will help the animals, then ante up.
and because I would expect no less of myself than I do of you, here's my ante:
to the OP:
if you need a hand finding resources, let me know. I'll help you research. I'm too far away to help the animals directly, but if there's something I can do from here, consider me on your team.
if I could do no further good, or could not sustain the pain and price of doing it, then it was time to be out.
sometimes you can continue to work for the better from the inside. sometimes you can't. it's a difficult and personal decision, one only the individual at the center of it can make.
MamaRoo: yes, the animals have lost a defender. that's true. however, you aren't in the OPs shoes, and do not know all that brought her to that moment of decision. there comes a point where an individual has, in fact, done all they can do. not all that could theoretically be done, perhaps, or all that *you* personally might do, but nonetheless, they, personally, are done.
I don't know what your intent was, but your comment came across as judgemental and rather flip. I'm not opposed to jugement where it's earned, but had I been on the receiving side of that, I think I might be more than a little cross about it.
easy to make such statements from outside. not so easy for the OP to live with either staying or quiting. might she have acted differently? perhaps, but she's got to live in her skin with her choices and I'm sure that's not going to be defined as "happy". been there, done it, it's not easy, and hindsight provides it's own challenges for living with.
guess my point is smacking the OP around doesn't seem useful under the circumstances. not to her, not to the animals. if you've got something that will help the animals, then ante up.
and because I would expect no less of myself than I do of you, here's my ante:
to the OP:
if you need a hand finding resources, let me know. I'll help you research. I'm too far away to help the animals directly, but if there's something I can do from here, consider me on your team.
