I also was a teenager in the 80's I got married at 16 had my 1st daughter at 17 at 18 got divorced and found out I was pregnant with 2nd daughter she was born when I was 19 third kid at 22 I was going to collage and working part time. It sucked I also had to take care of the house and everything while raising my 3 kids. I meet and married my now DH at 24 he was 26 at times I was able to stay at home others we both worked to support our kids. But the kids worked also they had chores which they got no money for. Right now my children are 24, 22, 19 and 15 they all live at home my 22 is disabled and will never live on her own. My oldest moved home because she got a divorce she does have a part time job. My 19 year old does not right now but he does a lot of things for me since I do have health problems he takes care of the outside chores for me when I can't I home school the youngest. They all help out with cleaning and do their own laundry. What I am saying is that with any family there are issues. My son does a lot of yard work in the winter and summer he does any extra jobs he can find. There has to be some thing in your area that you could do. If you paint put an ad in a paper saying I will paint anything then go look at a job and give an estimate. It might just be small jobs here and there but that is money plus you can use them as references. Just keep looking and remember don't give up. Maybe your friends can pay you something for hanging out and watching the 14 year old. On the smoking I am not going to lecture you one it, I smoke so does 2 of my kids and my DH we did go to roll your own cigs bought a hand machine and roll them ourselves we pay for 4 cartons what most pay for a cheap carton just something to think about. Just get up and keep going keep looking.