Hi BYC friends. I'm so upset. Hopefully this is ok to talk about here, if not I apologize. One of my 6 brother-in-laws "Rob" is a lowlife druggie. He is in jail right now and has been since before Hanukkah. It all started when he moved back to Tx from Colorado after not being able to pay his rent. (he had no job and his wife is an "exotic dancer") He moved all of his things into my mother-in-laws garage. Her one rule was that they not have over any guests. Rob's two younger brothers also live in the house. Rob's wife invited another man over while Rob was gone. When my MIL discovered he was in there she demanded they leave, when they refused to do so she said she was going to call the police. They locked the garage door that leads to the house and cut the circuit breaker knowing that she only has an internet phone and would not be able to call without electricity. Rob ends up coming home and defending his wife. So MIL calls the police. Of course Rob says he has been allowed to live there so they say she has to legally evict them. Over the course of the evening/night the cops were called a total of 5 times. Rob, his wife, and the other man show up at our house at 2am. My husband tells them they are not welcome (his wife is a thief and I would never let her in my home) so they scream and curse him and leave. I guess by this time they decide to go back to MIL house. Once they realized the house had been secure they try to break the garage door, when Rob's little (19 yr old) brother hears someone trying to break in, he grabs the shotgun and yells for the person to leave. Rob breaks the door and comes in the house. When he sees his bro with the shotgun he threatens to come back later and shoot his mother and brothers and then burn the house with everyone inside. The next day when we hear about it all we convince her to call the police again and the two younger brothers make statements. He's arrested later that night. He's been in jail since and it has been nice and quiet, very similar to how it was when they were living in Colorado. ............. Well. I'm here at work, and I get a call from my husband to say that he called his mother to talk and ask about the situation. Although she says Rob is still in jail, she informs him that Rob is going to buy a house that's ON OUR STREET. Of course, my husband asks how that's possible since he's in jail and has no job. He also has terrible credit and could never purchase a home on his own. As if she's out of her mind, she tells him that it's a free country and Rob can buy a house wherever he wants, and she denies that she's going to buy it for him. We are on good terms with MIL, always have been. There is no logical reason I can see that out of the whole bloody world he has to move onto OUR street. His trashy lifestyle is so repulsive to us that we don't even want him around AT ALL, much less living near us and bringing his criminal friends to the area. I am infuriated. I called her and ask her myself how he was going to buy a house when he has no job. She repeated the same mantra that it's a free country and he can buy a house wherever he likes, then she hung up on me! sooooo.............. I spoke to one of the younger brothers that lives with her and he said "Ben", one of his older brothers who had been in Europe for the past year had come home and was trying to convince her not to pay Rob's 10K bond and get him out of jail. Especially since she was the one who put him in there in the first place and he needs to learn there are consequences to his actions. She then freaks out and begins throwing Ben's stuff outside (which is over the guardrail & down a cliff because of the way her house is). After speaking with the youngest brother I couldn't take it anymore. I couldn't hold my tongue and be polite. (I'm usually well mannered lol) I wrote her a furious letter online. I figured if I called she would just hang up again which has never happened before. I told her in no uncertain terms that if she helps him in any way to obtain property near ours that I would never speak to her again. I told her that it's beyond comprehension to think that we would want their kind of scum around us and that she is assisting someone who openly disrespected her and her home, to the detriment of US (we're always good to her & the family, the only ones who visit for Passover, etc.). I told her that she behaves like an abuse victim, she denounces him, but later she goes right back to the same routine. No matter how Rob treats her she ends up caving and giving him what he wants, usually because he threatens her with violence (which he can't really do while in a cage!). I also kinda vented as you can imagine and added a big "HOW DARE YOU!" at the end. We have a pretty informal relationship, we're all adults. It's nothing she hasn't heard before from one of family member or another but this will be the first time she hears it from me. I HAVE HAD ENOUGH. If she encourages him to move near us I'll never forgive her.