I need to vent

[spacecowgirl]

What a terrible situation. From what I understand, though, it doesn't sound like he is in any position to be buying a house at all, what with being in jail, no income, etc. etc....unless MIL is footing the bill???

I like the idea of a previous poster: Get a restraining order! Now!! Don't wait til he's out of jail and in the market for a house in your neighborhood!

Best of luck. Please take precautions and don't let this psycho anywhere near you or your husband!

 

[dainerra]

unless he specifically threatened you and has a history of violence against YOU then it's pretty unlikely to get a restraining order. As far as stopping him from buying a house, not likely to happen, All he has to do is stay X number of feet away from you. Especially if your MIL is footing the bill - he will simply be living in a home purchased by her, to be around family.


http://teirlaw.com/restrainingorder.html explains some of the legal aspects of protective vs restraining orders and how to apply. The most extreme is 500' More than enough that he could move in a couple houses away and still be legal, even if you do get an order.

 

[Mattemma]

Sorry to read your family is going through this.It is a shame when people create issues,and family enable it. Personally I think protective/restraining orders are a joke.I mean really does a violent person care that a judge wrote an order telling you to stay away from a person you like to harm? It sure didn't help us.

Sad to say but the best option for a person fearing for their safety is to get away from the losers by moving(leaving no trace),and owning a gun that is kept handy at all times. Even then you may likely be so shocked by an actual attack that you do not react quick enough.

Hopefully your family issues will not ever reach that level. It did for us(when a child) and it is still surreal. It is a shame people do this. Hoping everyone settles down!It is too bad she does not buy him a house far away.

 

[NYboy]

I can understand why your upset. Maybe your mother inlaw is hoping your husband will be a good influence on his brother.

 

[Frost Homestead]

Thanks HenZ. we've avoided contact with them even at the behest of the brother who just got back from Europe. He wants to bring everyone together because he thinks he can help them, but we're not really interested in getting entangled in their mess. I just figured out how to find this on the new site!