I think my head might pop off from stress

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by ninny, May 1, 2011.

  1. ninny

    ninny Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 1, 2007
    IL side of the QCA
    Im not sure where to start. In two weeks my DH will be having a kidney transplant. So DD is going to be staying at a family friend for a month at least. My four dogs are going to be in two different places. We will be gone for four to six weeks and DD is not allowed to come with us. [​IMG] Shes only a year old. I hate leaving her. [​IMG] Two of my dogs are old so i'm scared they'll die when we are gone. Then my two young dogs are not going to get worked for a month. That will be a new type of hell when we get back. We were suppose to have a benefit to help with costs before we left. Thats not happening now. So I have to make it work either while we are gone or when we get back. I'm gonna be four hours away. So I have to get people here to do it for me. Poor DH is trying to find someone to coach our church's softball team since he can't this year. However most are college kids and can't do it.
    I am with a service dog group. I am setting up a reading assisting program at our local library. So i'm trying to get that going. Then I am going to be working on a dog safety class. I also am trying to get some fundraisers going. I just got a phone call today from our founder who also owns our pet store. She is willing to pay for my dog grooming equipment and carpool with me if i will groom for her. I will have to pay the equipment off. She will just take half a check till its payed off. She is also going to certified me as a dog trainer through PAWD. This will save me a ton of money as i had planed to go to school. Dog grooming school around here is three grand. I was also gonna go through the animal behavior college to be a certified dog trainer. Thats another three grand. So now i'm just looking at three hundred for the online vet assit cert plus my grooming equipment. Big savings. I can take my DD to work with me because Maria loves her and will watch her. Heres my problem. I live 45 minutes away for the store. Now i only have to drive half way to Maria's house and ride with her from there. So that will help. I hate driving in the winter however and the roads get nasty round here. So theres one problem. The other is i have to give up my Friday and Saturdays. But it's only two days a week. Once i get on my own i'm gonna try and do Thursdays and Friday days only. I also have to make it worth my gas to go there. So I would need a certain amount of dogs. I have to give her a answer by the end of the week.
    I feel really really stressed. What would you do about the grooming? It is something on my list of things to learn. Should i just do it? If I do it it will really help jump start my dog kennel bizz.

    I wonder if doing this [​IMG] would make me feel better or just give me a headache?
     
  2. ninny

    ninny Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 1, 2007
    IL side of the QCA
    Nobody has any advice? [​IMG]
     
  3. schellie69

    schellie69 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Oct 8, 2009
    Kansas
    Its early on Monday maybe not to many people on. I would stop and breath, Take one thing at a time. I think you need to put some things on hold until after your husband's surgery. [​IMG] Just remember to slow down and take each thing as you can. It sounds like there are just to many things happening at once. I understand about starting the dog grooming job: however it seems that you won't be able to start for some time ask your friend to hold off until after you get back from your husband surgery. Good luck.
     
  4. sheila3935

    sheila3935 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    First off BREATH! You first priorty is your hubby. The grooming is a good opportunity but dont get in over your head. When I am faced with decisions like that I pray. I put it in Gods hands and he will direct me, but then again thats just me. Dont take on too much right now. You need to be there for your family and you need to take care of yourself. One thing at a time is all we can do.
     
  5. Shireshome

    Shireshome Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I have a one year old daughter too and no way could I leave her for a month! Just the thought of that made me cry. My DD wont even let me leave her for 5 minutes. It sounds like maybe you have too much going on right now, can you wait till next year? Life is short and you wont get these baby years back, I know cause just yesterday my oldest boy was 1 and today I woke up and now he's 6 [​IMG]
     
  6. ChooksinChoppers

    ChooksinChoppers Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 24, 2011
    Ocala, Florida.
    If it were me I would take the opportunity! Seeing you can take your DD to work with you (big plus) and its only a couple of days a week, And the trainer cert.......would be worth it IMO.
    Praying DH's surgery goes well and your house gets back to normal ASAP.
     
  7. Bat Cave Silkies

    Bat Cave Silkies Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 11, 2010
    Bat Cave, NC
    Have to agree with some of the other posters~~~concentrate on your HUSBAND for now....put EVERYTHING else on the back burner.
    When his transplant is complete, and he's back on his feet, THEN look at your career. Yes, the month away from your daughter and 4 dogs is going to be difficult (and I hate to be blunt, but)compare that to a lifetime away from your husband....
     
  8. Mattemma

    Mattemma Overrun With Chickens

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    Hugs for you! I hope your dh will be ok.If it were me I would put a hold on everything,or let others take over.No fundraising,no school,nothing but focusing on dh.Someone else can(and should) find someone to coach dh's team. Hopefully your dogs will be ok.Priority though is dh.Hard to have the little one gone for so long.I would want to keep her close with dh,but understandable if you could not.
     
  9. ninny

    ninny Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 1, 2007
    IL side of the QCA
    Thanks everyone. I have been doing lots of praying. This grooming thing is a God given gift i'm thinking. We could use the money. I won't start till after we get home and DH don't need me. The softball thing fixed it's self thankfully. DH is going back to his normal self soon! I'm so thankful everything has worked out. His sister is the donor. When we get home he should be able to right back to work. Im putting some of the other stuff in the back of my mind for a while. It will be here soon enough i have to deal with it. The benefit i have to get going. We need the money when we are up there. I think theres to much to think about at once. And im starting to get nightmares again. I use to get them something awful and i had one last night. I think mommy needs a spa day.
     

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