I have found it to be generally true that males are more loving than females, but my parents have a male and he is a mean little snot.  They loooove him (he is referred to as my little brother), but he is a complete brat.  He's half Himalayan and beautiful, but devious and mean.  Except he loves my dad.  If it were me and I definitely wanted a cuddly cat, I would try to find an adult that had the personality I was looking for.  It can be hard to predict what a kitten is going to be like when it grows up.  For example, my parent's cat was sweet and friendly as a kitten.  I'm not really much of a cat person, but I had a barn cat when I was a teenager that acted more like a dog than a cat.  That's the kind of cat I would like.  He was so sweet.
	
		
			
		
		
	
				
			
	
	
	
	
	
	