I wish *I* was getting $65,000

[PineappleMama]

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I hear ya. I handle the bills around here, but it's B that's good at scrooging it. If we need to save it's him that does the squirrelling away. There just always seems to be something you know? A pair of sneakers (just one size too big) for $2 at the thrift store for my growing son... or a package of hair ties (3 of 4 of us have long hair)... or yearbooks, directories, fundraisers, supplies for school... not to mention car parts... or a good sale on this or that meat so I stock up.

Yeah, I hear ya loud and clear...

 

[Yard full o' rocks]

I'm with Speckledhen on this one.....in this household everything is "ours". No "mine" and "hers". Collectively "we" decide how and when money is spent. We keep 2 checking accts and both of our names are on each one....

Until I was recently laid off I was the sole provider for our household....but NEVER, was it "my" money. Without getting too preachy here, when you marry "the 2 become 1". I think that's the way its meant to work in all things including finances.

I would encourage you to talk it over with your DH. Spend only what you "need to spend", not what you "want to spend" and save as much as possible for a "rainy day". Unfortunately with my job our "rainy day" came last Nov, but fortunately we were prepared.

If he truly needs a new car then so be it. However, I would also think that $500 - $1000 to build a really nice coop in the yard wouldn't be out of the question either. Its not equitable, but it would seem to me to be at least a little more fair.

A $65k windfall is certainly a welcome gift. I would encourage you BOTH to use it wisely.

Best of luck

 

[Mahonri]

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No truer words could be written... in our day and age, for many (not all), they are financial suicide.

 

[lockedhearts]

Yard full o' rocks :

I'm with Speckledhen on this one.....in this household everything is "ours". No "mine" and "hers". Collectively "we" decide how and when money is spent. We keep 2 checking accts and both of our names are on each one....

Until I was recently laid off I was the sole provider for our household....but NEVER, was it "my" money. Without getting too preachy here, when you marry "the 2 become 1". I think that's the way its meant to work in all things including finances.

I would encourage you to talk it over with your DH. Spend only what you "need to spend", not what you "want to spend" and save as much as possible for a "rainy day". Unfortunately with my job our "rainy day" came last Nov, but fortunately we were prepared.

If he truly needs a new car then so be it. However, I would also think that $500 - $1000 to build a really nice coop in the yard wouldn't be out of the question either. Its not equitable, but it would seem to me to be at least a little more fair.

A $65k windfall is certainly a welcome gift. I would encourage you BOTH to use it wisely.

Best of luck

Well said Scott! I handle the bills, but I am unemployed and Hubby works, If the situation was reversed, he would handle the bills, it's not an I or me situation but one of who has the time. When we both worked we both handled things. We do not make large purchases without talking about it together and we stick to a budget. Improvements made to the house are for both of us.​

 

[PineappleMama]

Yard full o' rocks :

I'm with Speckledhen on this one.....in this household everything is "ours". No "mine" and "hers". Collectively "we" decide how and when money is spent. We keep 2 checking accts and both of our names are on each one....

I think that may have been one of the problems with my mom's marriage... there was HIS, and there was HERS... she paid for home improvements (and did the work IE retiling the kitchen and baths!), furniture, vacations, etc. She refused to spend any of HER income on the household bills.

Likewise he refused to put a dime towards any of the things she paid for.

Both only gave money, clothes, birthday/Christmas gifts to their own children/grandchildren, not each others.

Seemed odd to me at the time, but not my business. But your post made me wonder ...​

 

[BedHead]

It is odd, but it's what works for us. I make more money than he does, so I certainly don't lack for anything - I'm just the type of person who spends what comes in till it's gone. We did both agree that the house renovations need to be done, but he's the one planning for it and everything. I'm perfectly content to let him disburse the money - I think he should be the one to disburse it. I would just spend spend spend.

But it would be nice if I got an inheritance myself. *sigh*

 

[WriterofWords]

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But remember, in order to get an inheritance, someone has to die. Do you want it that badly?

 

[cmjust0]

Speaking of...and I know this is bad, but...

My mom and I don't talk. There's been bad blood growing between us since I was old enough to defend my dad, from whom she was divorced when I was two.. I won't bore you with the details, but I was having dinner with my brother one evening when she called his cell. He mentioned to her that he was out with me..

Here's the rest of the conversation:

Bro: Into phone, "Uh huh..ok, hang on." Looks back at me and says "Mom wants to know your social security number."
Me: RED FLAGS popping up in my head..."Why would mom need my social security number?!?"
Bro: Asks her, then looks at me and says "She's filling out the beneficiary form on her life insurance and needs your social."
Me:

Bro: Into the phone, "Mine's ___-__-____."
Me: "Is she serious?"
Bro: Agitated, "Yeah...what's your social?!?"
Me: "Oh.." Kinda loudly..."Well, in that case, it's ___-__-____."
Bro: Repeats my social to her. I hear her through the phone, across the table.. He laughs.. Looks up at me and says "She figured you'd tell her once you knew what it was for."
Me: "Well yeah."

I know that's bad, but hey.....she had her chances, believe me.

 

[calicokat]

I hope that was REALLY why she wanted it

 

[agnes_day]

why cant you have some of the money too?
my husband is the breadwinner, and he does keep the money but i cant ever imagine him not giving me money if i wanted it.
thats kind of crappy.