If you care to hear the rants/troubles of a young adult.

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Set an alarm and get up and do a few of the things that you see that need done. The other adults in the house, do they work? If you don't work, and don't go to school, then you need to keep busy, and that's by doing some of these things. And find one thing daily that your Mom will really notice and appreciate, and do it also. Maybe it's time you get with the program at home! They will be more willing to help you if you help them.
 
My dad works (home 2 days of the week -- he's a truck driver) and my older sister has her 2 jobs. My younger siblings are still in school (homeschooled) and I will often help out with their school, usually their math and science. I also help my older sister take care of the cow and steer -- that takes up most of the morning, so by the time outside things get done, I have just enough time to get ready for the day before it's lunchtime. The afternoons I do some chores and if I'm needed I help the younger ones with their school. I am the only one in the house who regularly does the laundry, and I have made a big effort lately to help more with the dishes and washing (something I hate).

So I have been making an effort to help more than I used to with the household things. I guess maybe I need to try harder... Sometimes life feels so unfair and hard...
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Hon, I am at least (AT LEAST) 30 years older than you are, and I still have days like that. Try to keep a good attitude, and try to have a sense of humor!
 
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Hon, I am at least (AT LEAST) 30 years older than you are, and I still have days like that. Try to keep a good attitude, and try to have a sense of humor!

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I try. Most of the time that's how I am, but today has been ... blech.
 
Heather,
I give you two thumbs up for trying! A lot of young adults these days don't even bother to try to get a job! And the fact that you are trying, just shows how responsible you are. You are worth it! Don't let somebody tell you how to live your life, all that really matters is if you are happy, with yourself, with your life, with your job. THAT is all that really matters. Just because your sister is good at musical things, it doesn't mean that you have to do that too. Everybody has a thing that makes them happy, and you said yours was math. I am sure that whatever you do you will be good at it. Just remember that you can do it! I promise.
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Try not to let people put you down.
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It must be very hard having your own mother tell you that "you aren't worth it" Just remember that you are worth it!
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If your mom doesn't feel you should get your license right now, then there isn't much that you can do about it. Maybe after you get a job your mother will think about letting you get your license? Once that you get a job, then work out a way to get back and forth to there. Have your sister drive you, ride your bicycle, walk (depending how close it is) and in some cases your coworker may even be able to drive you (depending on where you work and who your coworker is).

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Life has its ups and downs. But just by looking at debiraymonds "Tell me something GOOD that happened to you today" thread, a lot of good things can happen in life too. Try to focus on those good things and try to dust off all of the bad things (even if it is hard at times-- and I know that it can be.) Keep a positive attitude and you will get far in life. Trust me.
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I can relate because my mother was much the same way, especially when I was your age and still living at home. She had/has a "wonderful" way of putting down my ideas and plans and just basically shooting a big hole in my balloon all the time! There was always a reason why things just weren't going to work out the way I wanted. Yeah, no kidding, never expected everything to always be perfect but a person has to at least try! That's where that whole "life and learn" thing comes into play.

So anyway, as far as housework etc. be proactive here, ask her if it would work better and make everybody feel better about the situation if there were specific jobs assigned to you to do every day or every week depending on the job. And yes, I think you definitely need to be done with your permit and getting your license. Find whoever you can to help you out if mom won't do it. My sister has the same problem with her 24 year old son! He wasn't great at learning to drive her stick shift so she called it quits and he still has never gotten his license, still lives at home etc. etc. She has been no help to him whatsoever and he doesn't have much motivation of his own either.

It's my opinion that it is a parents responsibility to continue to nudge their kids towards becoming ever more responsible and independent, and that includes learning to drive and getting your license at the appropriate time.
 
It sounds like you are letting yourself getting caught in a catch-22 situation. You don't have a license so you can't drive. You can't drive so you can't get a job. You can't get a car because you can't get a job. You can't get a license/job/car because you can't get out of the house. You can't leave the house because you don't have a license/car/job.

It's one of those situations where you might have to bite the bullet and get out first. You have friends that live several hours away? Find out about moving in with one of them, or check the papers for people looking for roommates. Friends work best because they will usually be ok with you crashing on the couch for a while
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Line up job prospects before you go, even if it's the local convenience store or something. Work part-time at a couple of places.

Sometimes you can't get out of a hole without making a leap
 
Get some student loans and go to college. Live on campus, and you can include rent and meal plans with your tuition. I think you could do that!
 

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