If you knew someone who was doing something very dangerous and stupid

[blossom hen]

Maybe a call to social services asking if they'd do an evaluation?

 

[Wifezilla]

Step AWAY from the crazy person.

Unfortunately, you can't help someone who doesn't want to help herself. She needs an evaluation and meds, but she wont get that unless she is so bad she really DOES try suicide.

If I had to hazard a guess, I would say she sounds like she has borderline personality disorder. (This is a GUESS. I am not a shrink, nor do I play one on TV.) If that is the case, she will drag you AND her family down on her way to a serious crash and burn.

 

[Shared Acres]

See if you can call a mental health unit and discuss this with them. If you don't know the number, call the non emergency line of the police department and ask them if they have a unit for mentally ill people or can refer you.

You'll need to tell them the crazy stuff.

If you feel that she is a threat to herself or others, they can possibly take her in for evaluation whether she wants to go or not.

 

[wegotchickens]

Give her the contact # for the local homeless shelter(s) in your area. Then walk away. She's an adult, has enough smarts to write letters online, and can make her own choices. Let it be.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

I think she needs prayer and guidence. Just offer advice/concern/prayer but she will make her own choices in the end. Just have hope she becomes a happy and productive woman.

Surprisingly, meeting men off the 'net isn't as dangerous as many think. There are literally millions of people who do this and only a handful have situations that end up dangerous. It just seems alot more dangerous than it actually is.

No, I didn't meet my hubby off the internet either..

 

[luvmychicknkids]

LOL...."step away from the crazy person" is such excellent advice!!!

And what I KNOW I need to do.

I think I may do a combination of some suggestions here. There are no homeless shelters here, but she can go find one.

Also, a call to see if someone can evaluate her might be in order.

As for the intelligence to write letters online, she really doesn't. Someone else had to show her over and over how to pull up this personals account (it was also set up for her....she couldn't do it) and now she types out barely legible messages every day on a public computer.

 

[sparkles2307]

You know those big pry-bars...use one to get her off of you and then run reeeeeeealy fast and hide.

I work in social services, as a Food Support/Health Care worker...I have seen TONS of ppl fitting her description and so far havent seen any of them change.

just, run away. You will feel better.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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Oh, I don't think meeting men online is necessarily dangerous.....that is how I found my wonderful husband. I DO think writing strange men, telling them where she is and saying I am here for the taking is VERY dangerous, however.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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Cool, then maybe you can answer this. Are they generally crazy (I mean REALLY crazy) or do they just seem like it to the average Joe because they are so lazy and unconcerned?

 

[thechickenchick]

Wow! She must know that you are a very kind hearted person. She is confiding in you about this because she knows you will listen and do your best to "help" her. I really think it is mostly about the attention this will get her. Has she actually written to any of these men? Do they even really exist? Do you see where I am going with this?

I don't mean to sound cruel or uncaring. It is just that I have a sister that plays "games" like this for attention. These"games are dangerous to her and her 4 children. She will use anyone that will listen to her, even if for 1 second. 99.9% of what comes from her mouth is a lie and meant to make you feel sorry for her.

I am not saying your "person" is exactly like this. But this is the feeling I get from what you wrote. I know you are a caring and kind person but this is not your responsibility. If it will make you feel better explain to her your concern then refuse to listen to it any more.

Unfortunately it took me years to finally do this with my sister. I actually ended up moving away, I had to. Her "games" were consuming all of my energy, mentally and physically. You might have to "move away" too.