I can understand some of your issues. Parts of my bio family I don't talk to, but most I still get along well with. It doesn't matter if they are step, in-law, or 100% blood related, some I get along with and some I don't speak to anymore. Some are good people, most are decent enough that we can get along, and some are just not worth booger snot. It's unfortunate that you have to use Facebook to keep up with what's going on with your father. At least I am in a situation that I know what is going on through a good brother. I usually talk to him before I call Mom to find out the background of some of the things she is going to say. That way I don't get suckered into her dramamtics.
I fully understand that you have to be careful what you say and do to keep from upsetting your father. When we get parents the age of ours, we'll not have them with us a whole lot longer. As hard as it sometimes is, just do what you have to so his final days as decent as you can make them. You know you are not going to win anything, but it is not about you. It's about him.
I like Rancher's post, but this is the one I have problems with. He should feel extremely lucky if no one complained. That is so unusual. It's usually the ones that took the most advantage and caused the most trouble that complain the loudest. But yeah, Mom's money and property is hers. She can give it to whomever she wants.
When Mom passed and left everything to my sister. Not one of us complained, cuz she earned it, by taking care of her when she was sick. She's the one Mom chose and that was fine. Some of us are not so lucky to have a choice.
I fully understand that you have to be careful what you say and do to keep from upsetting your father. When we get parents the age of ours, we'll not have them with us a whole lot longer. As hard as it sometimes is, just do what you have to so his final days as decent as you can make them. You know you are not going to win anything, but it is not about you. It's about him.
I like Rancher's post, but this is the one I have problems with. He should feel extremely lucky if no one complained. That is so unusual. It's usually the ones that took the most advantage and caused the most trouble that complain the loudest. But yeah, Mom's money and property is hers. She can give it to whomever she wants.
When Mom passed and left everything to my sister. Not one of us complained, cuz she earned it, by taking care of her when she was sick. She's the one Mom chose and that was fine. Some of us are not so lucky to have a choice.