Is saying "thank you" so difficult?

[hooksetz]

I would like to say "thank You " in advance to anyone who writes and sends me out a check right Now.

 

[Lil_Chickadee]

I have some relatives by marriage, the same thing. At Christmas I'd mail their gifts and I'd never hear anything as to whether they received them, liked them, threw them in the trash, already had 10 of them, nothing! Soo, I just quit sending anything. I believe the main problem with my relatives were that if it didn't cost a lot of money, like in the hundreds, it didn't mean anything to them. A $50.00 or $60.00 video game or collectors doll was "nothing" to them, they wanted big things like $500.00 and $600.00 game consoles which I just couldn't do.

 

[Knight Hawk Ranch]

One couple at Chilis paid for our entire meal and then some one afternoon. On their way out they told us that when we came in they were thinking of asking to have their seats changed. But after a few minutes they relaxed and enjoyed having her in the same dining area.

We see the same thing when we go out to eat with our daughter.

You could see the people just crindge when we sat down near them with a toddler. However, usually within about 5-10 minutes, they would be interacting with her as she has always been a flirt and a people person. So much so, I was worried that she wouldn't 'know' who to stay away from. Thank-fully, she has since learned to shy away from questionable characters.

Another thing people do that I can not fathom doing. Letting their toddlers and small children wander around in public places unattended. This includes walking through parking lots without holding thier hands. It only takes once for a child to dissappear or get run over.

I will get off my soap box now.

edited cause I can't spell LOL​

 

[laurenlulu]

I have to say... I think thank you's are very nice, but I do not write thank you notes. I make it a point to say "thank you" for any gifts that I or my family receives, and let people know that I am appreciative. However, when I give a gift- I don't expect a Thank you. I feel it is kind of implied that they are grateful.

 

[Feathered Wings]

I stopped sending Christmas cards and Buying gifts not appreciated long ago.

I give the extra money to Charities and buy stuff for my son, husband and Myself
The money go's where it's really needed and we get better gifts for each other.
My son was taught to say please,Thank you and yes Sir and yes Ma'am i get written compliments from his teachers praising how polite and well behaved he is.
It's all in how you teach them he is 17 now and he is still polite and courteous and i hope he always will be.

 

[country lady]

Sorry, laurenlulu, I disagree completely. "Thank yous" don't have to be handwritten notes. Emails are easy and almost instant, as is messaging, and an oral thank you and hug is even better.

How do you know your gift has even arrived? Not everyone has family/friends nearby. And where is it implied that the recipient is grateful if there is no acknowledgment?

Nice manners and courtesy are the oils that soothe and civilize society.

 

[mtnhomechick]

I haven't read all the threads but I think people are basically in their own bubble these days. This world has changed so much.

I would stop giving.....jmho.

Sorry you can't get so much as a thank you.

Mary

 

[ursusarctosana]

From what I've seen we live in a culture of excess and entitlement. People think that if someone has something they're not using they should give it to them.

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

I will admit that I think emailed "thank you"s or invites to childrens parties, weddings or wedding receptions (Evite) are in poor taste.
And yes. I have gotten emailed invites to weddings and such. Surprisingly enough from the same couple that never bothered to send a thank you. Even an emailed one. Go figure.

An emailed invite to a back yard BBQ or such as a last minute thing are fine, but a phone call is just as affective and is a bit more polite.

 

[addiedunn]

This is an extremely touchy subject with me as well. We gave one niece a nice sized check for graduation almost two years ago and still have never heard a thank you. I'm thinking the only thing she is doing is screwing her brother out of the same.
I don't call them graduation announcements, anyway....every spring I sit back and wait for the invoices to start rolling in.