Is saying "thank you" so difficult?

[cwc362]

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Me too and I will also bow and curtsy!!

But yes manners are not a big priority for people now. Maybe they are just taking it for granted. People are so rushed now that I think they just can't keep up with everything. Don't know about these particular people though. Anyway , you have nothing to feel bad about- You are trying to do a good thing- Your heart is in the right place- I heard somebody say that "No Good Deed Goes Unpunished"

 

[Momma_Cluck]

I feel the same way...
I raised 2 very respectful and courteous teens... I constantly get comments from other parents about how "great" my kids are...
while this makes me feel like I "Did my job" it also makes me sad, because they shouldn't be the exception!

My kids always write or call anyone that sends them so much as a postcard!

When a friend of my daughter came over last week (after not seeing them for months--DD transferred schools) We sent home 3 dozen eggs with him... his parents BOTH lost their jobs, and are raising 3 boys in a small mobile-home after losing their home.

I didn't see it as charity-- in fact.. the whole time he was here,and the last time I spoke to hi Mom, we joked about the HUGE containers of eggs we have, how my fridge is overflowing, and that I can't find anyone to take them!

The mother has never acknowledged that I even sent them.


And it ISN'T just kids or "younger" People...
I have run-ins with RUDE, nasty "old people" at he store all the time! They cut you off in the parking lots, steal a space you were waiting 10 minutes for (with blinkers on!) Hit by their carts/amigo's with not so much as a "sorry' or "excuse me"...just a nasty look...
been cut in front of in-line... even had nasty remarks about My daughters clothes! (She likes a lot of black, dragons, skulls etc.. but off-sets them with lace, ribbons and bows & pretty scarves etc...)

WHAT is going on!?

When I was a teen, NONE of this stuff was "the norm" unless you lived in L.A., NY or Chicago..... small towns were where you knew and looked-out for each other, and showed EVERYONE the respect you expected in return...

I Blame the 70's era of "Never tell your kid no" and the whole "me 1st" attitude that came after for a LOT of it... and overpopulation as well....

But face it-- technology-- such as what WE ARE DOING RIGHT NOW has several generations of people who do not know proper social skills when face to face--- only texting, blogging, boards etc....

 

[cwc362]

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There you go! and btw I'm in West Tennesse in Huntingdon (Carroll county) originally from Gibson/Madison county- Where are you?

 

[Backyard Buddies]

I learned manners at a young age, but not just from my parents. They were very good at teaching us kids about thank you note writing, something I still do today. But, they weren't the best at teaching us other manners beyond 'please', 'thank you', and 'bless you'.

When I was 8 we moved into a neighborhood that was filled with children. Two of those children were the ages of my younger sister and I so it was only natural that we'd become friends. Their mother, Mrs. R., was a very proper English woman and set down the rules for her household. If you came to the door and wanted to play with one of her children, you had better ask properly or she'd wait until you did. If you were completely clueless, Mrs. R took the time to instruct you on the proper way to ask. It was the same with the telephone, with any treats you received at her house, or to thank her for allowing you to play in her home as you departed. She was never mean about it in any way.

Because she cared enough to do so, a whole neighborhood of children learned some valuable skills. Not everyone will take the time to do something like that, but I've never forgotten what Mrs. R. taught me and have carried it forward with the friends of my children.

My own children are well-behaved (most of the time

)and are often praised by adults for their manners and behavior. They know they're going to be writing thank you notes after receiving gifts, which has the upside of them limiting the number of party guests they invite to their bdays. The good thing about that is that it also cuts down on the greed factor. There are so many good reasons to teach these skills!