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Yeah, that's how I was raised too. You give hospitality to people or else. Or else what, they never said. Bad things, apparently worse than uninvited guests messing up your bathroom.
Yeah, that's how I was raised too. You give hospitality to people or else. Or else what, they never said. Bad things, apparently worse than uninvited guests messing up your bathroom.
But I was also taught never to accept, and to claim I allready have paid for the hotel room or I just ate a HUGE meal etc...
That way you're not rude for not asking and your not rude by overstaying your welcome.
See, we never had this part in my family. Not only are you not allowed to refuse a meal, but if you make any number of excuses why you're not hungry, my grandparents will continue to offer food, and then will make you a cup of tea and a sweet roll anyway. You don't get choices in the matter, it's just put in front of you within 15 minutes of your behind hitting the chair.
I think it must be a PA Dutch thing. My friends' parents did the same--anyone who walked through the door, ANYONE, was given a meal and a kiss on the cheek before leaving. If you said you had already booked a hotel, they would insist you cancel it, and you have to be outright rude before they will accept that you prefer the hotel to a pull-out couch. Then you'd get a lecture about wasting money on a hotel and hear for several years about what a wasteful person you are.
That way you're not rude for not asking and your not rude by overstaying your welcome.
See, we never had this part in my family. Not only are you not allowed to refuse a meal, but if you make any number of excuses why you're not hungry, my grandparents will continue to offer food, and then will make you a cup of tea and a sweet roll anyway. You don't get choices in the matter, it's just put in front of you within 15 minutes of your behind hitting the chair.
I think it must be a PA Dutch thing. My friends' parents did the same--anyone who walked through the door, ANYONE, was given a meal and a kiss on the cheek before leaving. If you said you had already booked a hotel, they would insist you cancel it, and you have to be outright rude before they will accept that you prefer the hotel to a pull-out couch. Then you'd get a lecture about wasting money on a hotel and hear for several years about what a wasteful person you are.