ISO: Friendly Advice. Moving away from family & never returning.

[MROO]

Thank you!
I actually love art, as well as have done some quilting, and taking classes is a really good idea that I hadn't thought about.
Animal shelters had crossed my mind! I love animals. The only real job I've had has been caring for horses, and occasionally stopping to poke a cow's snoot.
Unfortunately I can't do physical work anymore(at least not for now) and indoors jobs would be the death of me, haha. I've thought about picking up a job if I have time early on, or if we need it. I will be staying home to homeschool the kids once they come along.
The journal idea is a very useful one.
Thanks again.

Socializing is a lot like sticking to a diet. It's hard to do without someone to encourage you ... and hold you accountable! Designate a friend or family member from back home. Give them permission to ask you how you're extending yourself. Authorize them to "push" if they sense you're slipping. And stay in touch. A familiar, friendly voice is golden!

• I've never moved far away, physically, but had to fight my way out of a nasty depression, and some of these suggestions helped mightily:
  Go back to the horses! There are large-animal rescues all over the country who would LOVE to have someone experienced with horses (and cows) onboard. Many need more than just barn help. While my daughter took lessons, I would shed out shaggy ponies. I had so much fun doing it that the barn manager invited me back whenever I felt the urge. It was GREAT therapy!
• Our local cat rescue is always looking for people to come socialize kittens. There's probably one near your new home doing the same!
• Share a skill. If you are a good baker, can sew, knit or crochet, make a Holiday decoration, anything, volunteer to teach a 4H, Scout or Youth Group class.
• Take an adult class: art, ceramics, swimming, poetry, anything. Our local community college offers one on repairing minor appliances & many on gardening - indoor and out.
• Join a congregation. No matter your affiliation, there's likely a women's group.
• Check out the library. Ours always has something going on - from understanding finances to book clubs to origami.
• ... And check out the BYC thread wherever you're headed. I'm sure the "locals" there will have LOTS of ideas for you!

 

[SunriseChickers]

Oh ok! I actually think that justins were my old pair... no wonder I didn't like them lol. I will definitely look into Ariats!

Yeah! Here in ny its around 9 when it's pitch black, right now it's 5... I don't like it dark so quick...

It gets dark here at 4 something. Way too early! I don't know when it gets light because of the blackout blinds in our room, and I don't get up until later anyways. I started asking my husband to leave the door open when he leaves to start work so I'll get some light to help me wake up properly. I was sleepier this morning, so he left it less open and I ended up with 11 hours of sleep.

 

[MROO]

Oh ok! I actually think that justins were my old pair... no wonder I didn't like them lol. I will definitely look into Ariats!

Yeah! Here in ny its around 9 when it's pitch black, right now it's 5... I don't like it dark so quick...

If an extra two cents counts, I LIVE in my Ariats!

 

[Sparrows]

If an extra two cents counts, I LIVE in my Ariats!

It does thanks!

 

[Sparrows]

It gets dark here at 4 something. Way too early! I don't know when it gets light because of the blackout blinds in our room, and I don't get up until later anyways. I started asking my husband to leave the door open when he leaves to start work so I'll get some light to help me wake up properly. I was sleepier this morning, so he left it less open and I ended up with 11 hours of sleep.

Wow that sounds like here in december it's like 4:30. that's a good thought! I saw online where they have alarm clocks that make the room brighter so you wake up naturally

 

[SunriseChickers]

Socializing is a lot like sticking to a diet. It's hard to do without someone to encourage you ... and hold you accountable! Designate a friend or family member from back home. Give them permission to ask you how you're extending yourself. Authorize them to "push" if they sense you're slipping. And stay in touch. A familiar, friendly voice is golden!

• I've never moved far away, physically, but had to fight my way out of a nasty depression, and some of these suggestions helped mightily:
  Go back to the horses! There are large-animal rescues all over the country who would LOVE to have someone experienced with horses (and cows) onboard. Many need more than just barn help. While my daughter took lessons, I would shed out shaggy ponies. I had so much fun doing it that the barn manager invited me back whenever I felt the urge. It was GREAT therapy!
• Our local cat rescue is always looking for people to come socialize kittens. There's probably one near your new home doing the same!
• Share a skill. If you are a good baker, can sew, knit or crochet, make a Holiday decoration, anything, volunteer to teach a 4H, Scout or Youth Group class.
• Take an adult class: art, ceramics, swimming, poetry, anything. Our local community college offers one on repairing minor appliances & many on gardening - indoor and out.
• Join a congregation. No matter your affiliation, there's likely a women's group.
• Check out the library. Ours always has something going on - from understanding finances to book clubs to origami.
• ... And check out the BYC thread wherever you're headed. I'm sure the "locals" there will have LOTS of ideas for you!

What a great analogy, "sticking to a diet". I've never thought about it that way, but it's true!
You have offered me a lot of fantastic ideas! I especially like the idea of sharing a skill with a group of younger people. I was involved with American Heritage Girls for a time, and I know that there are troops out here.
And checking in with the BYC thread! I considered sticking my head in there, but I didn't think about asking for ideas for things.
Thank you!

 

[SunriseChickers]

If an extra two cents counts, I LIVE in my Ariats!

If it's not bare feet or my RedWings, it's always one of my pairs of Ariats!

 

[SunriseChickers]

Wow that sounds like here in december it's like 4:30. that's a good thought! I saw online where they have alarm clocks that make the room brighter so you wake up naturally

I would love that, and my dad also suggested something similar. Unfortunately I don't think my husband likes the idea very much. He is content with his BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP. I'm already being able to fall back asleep more quickly after the alarm. And since I wake up, I get a kiss and a "good morning". :3

 

[Sparrows]

If it's not bare feet or my RedWings, it's always one of my pairs of Ariats!

I would love to be barefoot! but there is so much glass and metal on this property

 

[Sparrows]

I would love that, and my dad also suggested something similar. Unfortunately I don't think my husband likes the idea very much. He is content with his BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP. I'm already being able to fall back asleep more quickly after the alarm. And since I wake up, I get a kiss and a "good morning". :3

Yeah your routine sounds better!