It's gonna be a long summer. *Rant about my jerky uncle*

[SarahBeth9394]

Oh eenie I would be spitting mad. If he ever interrupts you while doing your homework you should tell him that you are doing your homework so you can go to college, get a degree, not drop out and invade your siblings home without paying rent thinking it's your place to discipline their children. I know it's harsh but it is not his place to give you orders. Unless he's putting in 40 hours of work their he's not earning his keep since he's rent free.

Or you can simply tell him that the day he proves he is a responsible adult is the day you will respect his advice on it.

Also it doesn't matter if you were doing homework or sending rotten messages on facebook it isn't his place to parent you. Really he sounds like he sees that you have the potential that he squandered and he's ragging on you to boost his own self worth.

Oh if he's speaking to the babies above their comprehension you need to tell him how to speak on their level or don't bother speaking at all.

Of course you can put your own tactful spin on this but oh boy I wouldn't be able to hold back.

Or next time he opens his mouth tell him the garden has weeds.

 

[redhen]

Honestly..i think your uncle means well... he cared enough to take the shoe brushes from your baby sister... he cared enough to even babysit and be RESPONSIBLE for kids that arent EVEN his kids! lol
I know its hard when you have ANOTHER adult giving you direction...(i.e. nagging you)...
But the fact remains,..he is an adult... you need to respect that.
TRY to think of things from HIS point of view... that is what shows true maturity... HOW does he feel about being responsible for someones elses kids??? Whether you realize it or not..its a BIG, stressful responsibility....if something happend to you or your siblings(i.e. choking on a shoe brush...) .. while he was there...he WOULD be considered the "adult" in charge (NOT YOU..)..... (i.e. the responsibility IS all on him..)
Just try to think of things from his point also... i know its hard to do...
Good luck, Kiddo!

 

[matthewschickens]

I agree with what RedHen says, you need to respect your elders. Even if you don't like their decisions, and even if you don't know it now, adults usually know better. And if you aren't getting along, love him. "Do unto others as you would have them do to you" and "love your neighbor as yourself" both apply well here.

God Bless,
Matthew

 

[zippitydooda]

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Sorry, was just curious if the person was old enough to be on their own.... no harm intended.

 

[Tanichca]

Ok, Evelyn. I think its time to call in the army! And by Army, i mean everyone on this forum, with our meanest, dirtiest, smelliest birds, to utterly destroy your evil uncle!

im ticked, how DARE he!!!!!!!!! Nobody is mean to my friends, NOBODY!!!

 

[eenie114]

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I totally agree that having an "adult in charge" as well as a "babysitter" is very confusing. Back to sitting down with your parents and both of you there to define roles.

If you were babysitting your sister, then you needed to be where she was so you could keep a close eye on her. I am not quite sure what your uncle took away that was poison? Was it the shoe brushes? It almost sounds like it was.

The fact that your mother has stated that she sees a problem with how he treats you tells me that it definitely needs to be addressed by your parents. He doesn't have to like you, but he must respect you and treat you properly. As has been said, this is YOUR home, and he is a guest.

Yes, the poision was the shoebrushes.... Shoebrushes that had been sitting in an attic for years and had been washed, and no longer had any smell whatsoever.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Okay, then taking the brushes (which had been given to your sister by your parents?) was out of line. But, there still needs to be a lot of misunderstandings cleared up and lines of behavior set by your parents.

 

[Kaitie09]

Just be glad it is not your stepfather. My mom remarried when I was 10 to a man that lived in a cluttered trailer on his parent's lot. Him and I have never had a relationship at all and I don't believe he even knew how to treat a child. He would kick his dog when he was not obeying and that erked me right from the beginning. Now 10 yrs later, and he and I still do not talk unless it is for him to yell at me. Luckily my mom got him out of the habit of abusing animals, but we still have 9 cats that are too terrified of him to even walk by him. He constantly freaks out if you do not wash your hands before you touch a bag of anything, yet he will be outside in mud and come in an eat something. He also hides food he likes in "secret" places so no one else can get it. I have been living in the same home with him for 10 years and we still do not speak. Just be happy you only have until September.

 

[welsummerchicks]

I feel that those who are advising you to mouth off to your uncle, suggesting snotty replies to make whenever he tells you to do something, are only adding to the problem. That's only going to worsen your situation. Sorry folks but a snotty reply only worsens family problems.

 

[eenie114]

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I love him fine. I just don't particularly like him. And doing unto others in just fine and dandy, but a fool despises correction.