Judge Willaim Adams

[jerseygirl1]

I'm wondering if this is the judge who said his daughter was retaliating because he took away her allowance and her Mercedes?

 

[EweSheep]

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That is what I understand.....just retaliating. Kids are smart about that and I hope something will solve out of this mess. Why she waited that long? I'm guessing sweet revenge.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Those are the words of the abuser who is now filing for custody of the younger child. I don't care if he claims he was going to take away her car. Exposing his abusive ways so he couldn't win custody and abuse the younger child is what is sounds like the true motive for both the daughter and mother sitting side by side on this. And if it wasn't SO WHAT if it keeps him away from another girl to beat into submission then he deserves it.

 

[mom'sfolly]

Yep, that's his story...she's doing it because she is getting back at him for taking away her toys.

Mom and daughter say it is about ending the abuse, and keeping him from getting full legal custody of the younger child. Daughter says she was afraid to release it when she lived under his roof. Gee, I wonder why she thought that it might be dangerous to her if she released it?

Bottom line, he did it. His reasons about why she released it really aren't the key part of the story.

Even his story about why she released the video is a story about manipulation and control. The whole "I will support you and provide for you only if you do with your life what I think" is about control. If he doesn't give his daughter a car, fine. To use the car he gave her as a tool to manipulate his adult daughter...not so fine.

 

[kareninthesun]

i was beat with belts ( including the belt buckle) and wire coathangers. all of which left welts. it wasnt until my mom was diagnosed with alzheimers and my sisters and i went to seek help for mom when the whole background story, closely gusrded the confessed as true from her siblings emerged. mom herself was a victim of abuse and molestation by her father whom regularly threatened her into silence. as he oldest girl, her personality shifted to protect her siblings, and protect at all costs. however, she also learned the finer skills of manipulation and violence, and no nurturing skills aside protection. oddly, in protecting her younger sisters, they were left alone by dad, althogh they knew what was going on. because he was an alcoholic, when sober everything was fine. grandma was clueless because mom was ashamed and wanted to protect even her. imagine my sisters and my shock to hear a professional say that what we went through was hell...on the surface, everything looked fine. great. mom was stunningly beautiful, publically was well known and popular. but we walked on eggshells ALWAYS never knowing what would set her off or how to react. we learned to please externally, but not trust. loved yet hated and looked for the quickest way to escape. mom's family knew how she was, that logic meant nothing to set her off. they knew how she treated us but did not intervene. these are not uneducated folks...one owns a multi million dollar company, the rest are successes in their own ventures and are close to their own families. mom also.suffered from walking blackouts. not always from drink but from meds the dr prescribed. it took me a long time.to understand my mom, then forgive. then to accept that even then she still did the best that she could given the emotional state she was in. not accepting this as ok...but that sickness is what it is. what i learned from MY background was that it would never work with me punishing my children physically once we could communicate. to resort to such meant that I Was off track and needed to seek advice on how to lead my child towards adulthood.

more than the physical beating, I cringed over the words he spittled out. No father, no parent, no guardian needs to resort to this belittling of spirit. it shows his daughter of what little worth she is. even during his best moments of tenderness, these words are branded on her soul as.appropriate and accurate.

for him to say that she set him up during the following years because of.piano lessons and a.car are nonsense. sounds like.he.is.still attempting to manipulate her life by making her adhere to his schedule of life. i think it took great courage for her to finally come.clean and hope.she.seeks help in overcoming what she went through.

 

[EweSheep]

Found the CC part, personally he went too far...that is beating! That is not a spanking in the way he is saying to her.

Both parents apologized to the daughter but what gets me, mom is forgiven but not the dad. It would be a different story if he continues to beat her but there is nothing to document the punishments that he gave her, like bruises, welts, etc. other than the video proof.

Personally, I don't think they need to put a statue of limitation on beaters and molesters and murderers. It is not the same as someone who steals or shop lift to support a habit or need to feed their families.

 

[kareninthesun]

just wondering: what if this judge was oh, a foster parent, or was had a different job? What if he were a teacher? Pastor? Rabbi? What if he weren't the guardian of this 16 year old? Or an uncle, brother? Just because he is the father, this makes it ok, appropriate to go to the extreme? What makes it going to far? Wounds severe enough to have her go to the hospital? When she was facing forwards (towards her father) and he was still hitting her across the shins/thighs, does this make it ok? ANd will his attitude NOT reflect on how he judges within the court system? What happened to protecting children?

How has he ruled on cases like this in family abuse cases, where the parent has hit a 16 year old with two belts, cursing and calling them names, then not allowing them to sleep in their own rooms? Especially if they have a form of cebral palsey?

AND, was/are the parents getting any kind of financial assistance, breaks, help on taxes because of her condition?

ANd, I can't believe the mom when she said she was conditioned to act this way. No mother whom loves their child would stand by and allow/say such things.

 

[sourland]

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"Roll over and take it like a woman." That's a quote from the mother. I'm thinking that she was just glad that someone else was taking THAT beating.

 

[mom'sfolly]

That comment from mom said a whole lot about the way that family worked.

The fact that the girl was able to set up a video camera, and capture what she did shows she had a good understanding of how her family worked too. You could set up a camera in this house for the rest of my life, and not catch anything like that happening.

I also find it amazing that the man left the room several times, only to start over again. And when he had finished with the belt, he hit her again.

The fact that this man had a say in who got custody of kids in Aransas County is downright scary. Someone like this has no business being a judge.

 

[sourland]

Someone like this has no business being called a man!