mom'sfolly :
People think...if you saw a random man on the street hitting a teenage girl with a belt, would you think it was appropriate? Would you think it appropriate if he was hitting a boy? Would it be appropriate if she had mouthed off to him? What makes it appropriate if he is her parent?
Nothing, in my opinion. This girl was almost an adult, and the whole "you're a girl, you have to learn to take it" thing implies some other things about daddy and his attitude toward woman in general. And this man is a JUDGE, in FAMILY COURT. Not appropriate, and a punishment that just shows the parent's lack of control and "issues". This is not discipline, in is punishment and control. This beating didn't teach the girl anything about not downloading computer stuff, it did teach her that her parents cared more about controlling her than about her as a human being.
Finding out about the custody hearing makes perfect sense to me on the timing of the video release. Any good old boy judge in Texas who sues for custody is going to win it; this young woman just guaranteed that her dad will actually have to make a case before he every gets custody of her sister. Looks to me like she is trying to protect her sister.
I totally agree. I couldn't figure out why she uploaded it after all these years until I heard that he was seeking custody. He doesn't deserve custody of his daughter.
In my opinion, a parent should teach their child respect if they expect to see it. I've told my father this myself. "If you want your child to respect you, you must teach your child what respect is and why people deserve it." I don't think that's a lot to ask of a parent. I'm sure many of you on here have children and that you respect them. They will not learn anything positive from you if you only use negative reinforcement (sp?). By beating a 16 year old girl, she will then learn that she only deserves that kind of treatment in her adult years.
My parents taught me that I should demand respect from a significant other and that if they couldn't treat me right, then they don't deserve me.
I'm a fan of positive reinforcement. As someone said on here earlier, give the child time to think, THEN spank, then discuss how to do things differently next time so that the spanking doesn't have to happen again.
On a completely off note: I'd like to thank everyone who has commented so far for keeping it civil and not arguing. I was afraid to start this conversation at first for fear that it would be closed by the mods for fighting or getting out of hand Just another example of people showing each other respect. Thank you guys.
