I have a friend that lives 450 miles from me, she is Bi-Polar. After 15 + years I am used to the mood swings, depression and general nuttiness. She is getting older , doesn't drive and her son is a complete jerk and doesn't care about her. I had mentioned to her a few months ago about moving up here, if she wanted to, told her we could build a small "apartment" on our property and we could look after her, I could make sure she stayed on her meds and she'd have people to talk to daily and a way to go. I even paid to talk to my attorney about the money she would get if she sold her place and how to keep it safe but her be able to access it. I generally hear from her at least every week, I had heard nothing for 2 weeks, kept getting the recorder. My parents live near her but are traveling, of course I was panicking. I finally emailed a friend of hers that lives in TX. My friend was Baker Acted, which has happened before. Then this friend in TX , who doesn't know me at all, blasts me for being the cause of my friend's problems! She says it's all your fault, stop asking her to move, it is putting undue stress on her. Anyone who knows anything about Bi-Polar and depression should know that when the meds are off, the stories told to one person are likely not the same as told to the next person. I blasted back at this girl, honestly my one goal was to take care of my friend and truly it would have been a bit of a hardship on hubby and I to have her here, but I was willing to do that, in her best interest. Now I feel somewhat po's and a little betrayed. I almost feel like just walking away and the next time she calls me for help (usually financial) just saying no. Sorry for being so long, I really just needed to vent.