Kindness of strangers

I noticed in some of the earlier posts there seemed to be some confusion about volunteering at nursing homes. I have volunteered at a local nursing home for the past 6 years, and anyone can do it. You need no special training other than what the nursing home may give you on how to be a volunteer.

If you would like to volunteer, just go to the nursing home and ask. You probably cannot volunteer in the nursing department because they are involved in the day to day physical care of the residents. and you cannot feed or otherwise assist a resident physically without training. Instead, ask for the Activities Director. Activities departments are notoriously short handed and would love to have you. There is a wide variety of things going on and if you volunteer for a while, you will find which types of activities you like to do and which you don't.

You can visit the bed ridden, talk to them and read to them, etc. I don't do this, as I am just not good at it. You can assist in the daily activities such as sing alongs, crafts, cooking, bingo, etc. I call bingo once a week, and the staff loves it. It frees them up to finish up their paperwork, or help the residents with bingo. After bingo, I do an activity with the residents such as games, reminiscing or reading to them. You can do as little or as much as you want to. Some groups come in once a month, some individuals come in once or more a week for a few hours.

I am only at the nursing home for about 3 hours once a week, but the rest of the time, I make centerpieces for the dining room tables and other decorations for the dining room. I have gone on field trips to help push the residents in wheel chairs, and helped out at the annual Christmas and Halloween parties. There is such a wide variety of things you can do. If you cannot physically get to the nursing home or don't feel comfortable interacting with the residents, you can sew or craft decorations, lap robes, small items for bingo prizes, etc.

If you don't feel like making a weekly commitment or in addition to your weekly volunteering, and you have some area of expertise or an interesting hobby, volunteer to come in and give a talk. Show them how to make a flower arrangement, talk about fly fishing, tell them about local interesting sights. All you need are a few interesting props they can look at and perhaps hold or touch. They are not critical and will very much appreciate that you cared enough to come and spend some time with them. I have given talks on sea shells (I am no expert. I just happen to have a bunch and looked them up on the internet), brought in and shared various cloth dolls I have made. and shared a dozen women's hats from the first half of the 20th century that I have. I told them a little about each one and then let them try them on and look at themselves in a hand mirror. The staff took pictures and we had a great time. Almost anything you enjoy and are enthusiastic about can be shared. Even chickens. Just do it outside on a warm day. Showing them different breeds and letting them pet a chicken would be a big hit. It's also a chance for them to reminisce about having chickens when they were younger.

Wow! I didn't realize how much fun I have had volunteering until I wrote it out.
 
MommaDuck_04, your post reminded me of my sister and brother-in-law.

My BIL was a Border Patrol Agent in Nogales, AZ. He and my sister were a little 'older' (mid-20's) and settled when they went there than the typical new agent. Many of the newer agents were younger, single guys with no family. I used to spend holidays with them, and they would always have 3-6 single guys at their home for the holiday meals. It was well-known in their unit that anyone who didn't have a family to spend their holiday with was welcome in the Miller household.

You could tell how much it meant to those young men to have a hot meal, good conversation, and fun when they couldn't be with their families. One year I helped her make a meal for 15 or 16. It was one of the best holidays I ever had.
 
Wow! I am very surprised that this thread made it into the BYC newsletter! Awesome.
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These are some great stories. Oobyscoot, that is truly touching. It is so great to read of people like you, thank you.
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Astounding to hear about the dog too! Those are probably memories you'll all treasure forever. Gotta love the community spirit.
And thanks for the nursing home advice, Jeanne. I'm not a social person, I'm shy and awkward, and scare people, but I would love to help out. Doing the bingo and making decorations, like you say, could be something within my limits.
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Thank you to everyone who shared these wonderful experiences about both giving and receiving. Most of my random acts of kindness over the years have involved helping animals, but I had reached a point a few years ago where I was a bit burnt out and jaded, mostly due to fights between two of the stray dogs we'd rescued and ended up adopting when nobody claimed them. (They're kept in separate parts of the house now.) I came to this forum just a few weeks ago searching for information to help me figure out what to do with an injured, stray chicken my son and I had found. Rocky, as we've named him, is doing well after having his gangrenous, untreated broken foot amputated. The full story is here: https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=594747&p=1. Reading these posts has been inspirational, I feel ready to do more to help other creatures and people in need!
 
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You know, that simple cup of tea from the homeless guy (Mick as we now know him) meant so much to us as he has next to noting in this world, his posetions ammount to a snall red cussion that he sits on and a small bag of things that are obviously very dear to him.

He had, at the time less than 5 pounds in the world, and he chose to buy us tea with it, now to me, that is worth far more than getting £900,000 from a nillionare. We stop and chat to him often now, he wont accept any more money of food from us, but he seems to enjooy having a couple of friends in the world. He is a very interesting chap who has actually done a lot with his life and seen a lot of this world, I genuinely think we get more out of the friendship than he does.

The stories of all the kindness payed to service and millitary personnel are real heart warming, but alas, they all seem to originate from the other side of the big pond. Unfortunately, military personnel are treated horifically over here in blighty, its a sad fact.... there have been stories of them being refused serice at petrol stations because the clerk, just did not agree with what the are doing. Stories of them being attacked in the street by fundamentalist nutters that the UK government cant seem to control...... Its all very wrong. My neigbors son is in the RAF and we always have a crate of his favorite beer for him when he returns home, its just a tiny little thing comared to what he is giving for us, but he enjoys it so we are happy to give.

Every easter, a large group of us bikers collect toys and easter eggs and sweets and take them all in a huge convoy to a local childrens hospice where they care for life limited children and their families, they always enjoy looking at the vast array of bikes and trikes that suddenly descend upon them, and I am sure they enjoy the sweets and toys as well. When we got married last year, we asked for cash as wedding gifts, we then stuffed it all in a big envelope and took ot straight to Acorns childrens hospice, we had allready lived together for 3 years, allready had a lovely home with everything we could want, so we thought peoples money would be better used by them instead of buying us a toaster we dont need.
 
I reckon it's not how much money or material possessions someone has, but the kind of person they are.
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Mick sounds like a great guy! He's passing on all his experiences and that's much better than leaving behind a big house.
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You know, that simple cup of tea from the homeless guy (Mick as we now know him) meant so much to us as he has next to noting in this world, his posetions ammount to a snall red cussion that he sits on and a small bag of things that are obviously very dear to him.

He had, at the time less than 5 pounds in the world, and he chose to buy us tea with it, now to me, that is worth far more than getting £900,000 from a nillionare. We stop and chat to him often now, he wont accept any more money of food from us, but he seems to enjooy having a couple of friends in the world. He is a very interesting chap who has actually done a lot with his life and seen a lot of this world, I genuinely think we get more out of the friendship than he does.

The stories of all the kindness payed to service and millitary personnel are real heart warming, but alas, they all seem to originate from the other side of the big pond. Unfortunately, military personnel are treated horifically over here in blighty, its a sad fact.... there have been stories of them being refused serice at petrol stations because the clerk, just did not agree with what the are doing. Stories of them being attacked in the street by fundamentalist nutters that the UK government cant seem to control...... Its all very wrong. My neigbors son is in the RAF and we always have a crate of his favorite beer for him when he returns home, its just a tiny little thing comared to what he is giving for us, but he enjoys it so we are happy to give.

Every easter, a large group of us bikers collect toys and easter eggs and sweets and take them all in a huge convoy to a local childrens hospice where they care for life limited children and their families, they always enjoy looking at the vast array of bikes and trikes that suddenly descend upon them, and I am sure they enjoy the sweets and toys as well. When we got married last year, we asked for cash as wedding gifts, we then stuffed it all in a big envelope and took ot straight to Acorns childrens hospice, we had allready lived together for 3 years, allready had a lovely home with everything we could want, so we thought peoples money would be better used by them instead of buying us a toaster we dont need.

Thank you for supplying his name, I felt bad calling Mick "the homeless guy". It does us well to remember that every single one of us has a name.
It sounds very much like your armed forces are being treated like ours were post-Vietnam war. It's such a shame to see people mistreat the ones willing to serve them. I live in a military town. The vast majority of people here LOVE and RESPECT our soldiers!
 
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And so they should.

Without those guys (and gals) we would all be speaking german and probably have to go to prayers 5 times a day now..... I do not believe in a God, be it Alah, Jehova, Jesus or whatever you want to call him. But I have no problem with others having faith, In fact i think its a nice thing, but dont try to force your beliefs upon me.

I like my freedoms, but they have to come at a price, now if someone else is willing to pay that Price on my behalf without expecting any reward from me, they have to have my love and respect. In fact, lets not forget that what those guys do for us is probably the ultimate in "kindness of strangers".
 
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And so they should.

Without those guys (and gals) we would all be speaking german and probably have to go to prayers 5 times a day now..... I do not believe in a God, be it Alah, Jehova, Jesus or whatever you want to call him. But I have no problem with others having faith, In fact i think its a nice thing, but dont try to force your beliefs upon me.

I like my freedoms, but they have to come at a price, now if someone else is willing to pay that Price on my behalf without expecting any reward from me, they have to have my love and respect. In fact, lets not forget that what those guys do for us is probably the ultimate in "kindness of strangers".

I once had a soldier remind me of the fact that he does get paid to do a job just like everyone else does. I understood his point, but, at the same time, I thought to myself, heroes are always humble.
 
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And so they should.

Without those guys (and gals) we would all be speaking german and probably have to go to prayers 5 times a day now..... I do not believe in a God, be it Alah, Jehova, Jesus or whatever you want to call him. But I have no problem with others having faith, In fact i think its a nice thing, but dont try to force your beliefs upon me.

I like my freedoms, but they have to come at a price, now if someone else is willing to pay that Price on my behalf without expecting any reward from me, they have to have my love and respect. In fact, lets not forget that what those guys do for us is probably the ultimate in "kindness of strangers".

Amen.

My DH and I are members of the Patriot Guard. If you have never heard of them, google them. It is one of the hardest and most rewarding things I have ever done. A part of what the Patriot Guard does is to honor fallen Military members and support their families. It is absolutely heartrending to go to calling hours or a funeral, standing in a flag line, and have the family of a fallen hero come and thank us for being there to honor their loved one. They are hurting so much, and it means so much to them that their loved one is remembered and honored for their sacrifice. It is also quite common to see big, burly bikers with tears running down their faces as they thank the families for the sacrifice their loved one made for our country.
 

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