I fully see your point birdnutz.
I smoked up until 6 years ago. My husband still does.
I hate the smell of cig smoke (except once in a while, a freshly lit cig will smell soooooo good
).
My husband is considerate where and when he smokes. Always outside and always upwind of me.
He has the right to choose to smoke. I do not nag or criticize. but if he ever chooses to quit, he will have my full support.
Like cell phone usage in public, like how you talk to people you don't know, like having a barking dog, like loud music in your car as long as you are considerate of others I have no problem with what you are doing.
Just don't stand next to me and smoke downwind, don't yap on your cell phone in a quiet restaurant, don't let your dog bark all night and really, you are the only one who wants to hear that noise from your car speakers.
And if I choose to smoke and I am being considerate of you, don't come and be rude to me. Consideration goes both ways.
But I really really want hubby to stop smoking. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer and died 3 weeks later. I don't want to go through that horror again.