LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[KaleIAm]

seems like plenty of time for somebody to get used to? Or no..

I think it depends on several factors, like the person who is speaking's age, if they have ever used they/them for a single person liked this before, how long they have known you, ect.

For example, my stepchild is gender neutral and has been for maybe 4 or 5 years now. I easily switched to they/them within a month. Their dad, who has known them longer took about 3 months. Their grandparents STILL make mistakes many times daily and misgender more often than not.

When my stepchild first came out their dad and I sat around having conversations practicing using they/them appropriately. It really helped.

 

[CHlCKEN]

seems like plenty of time for somebody to get used to? Or no..

Many people I know have done so. It takes getting used to, but after 8 months I would think it’s just a matter of acceptance and seems like if people aren’t using them now that they are just not ok with it yet. I hate that people make it about themselves, caring about how they feel rather than how you do.

 

[chickentrains]

Many people I know have done so. It takes getting used to, but after 8 months I would think it’s just a matter of acceptance and seems like if people aren’t using them now that they are just not ok with it yet. I hate that people make it about themselves, caring about how they feel rather than how you do.

It guess I should be accepting too.

it just makes me shudder.

 

[KaleIAm]

It guess I should be accepting too.

it just makes me shudder.

Are these people at least trying?

 

[aart]

guess I should be accepting too.

Yep, unless they are doing it on purpose to yank your chain.

 

[CHlCKEN]

It guess I should be accepting too.

it just makes me shudder.

Accepting to what? Their ignorance? Their lack of respect? I wish it didn’t have to be, but sometimes you just have to let it go as best you can. Some people will never acknowledge the feelings of others, and there’s nothing you can do but let them go.

I can understand that. I am cisgender, but lesbian. Growing up in a household which expected/expects me to be straight and assumed I was/am was not at all easy. I did of course, cringe at every reference to my wrongly anticipated and assumed future boyfriend/husband after I turned thirteen and realized how I really felt in regards to my sexuality. It takes time, it takes patience, it takes a lot of things for others to finally recognize the importance of gender identity/sexuality and throughout it all just try be strong. Find the people who support you (You’re in BYC’s biggest and most supportive rainbow right now!) and acknowledge that some people are just ignorant and lack all respect towards others.

If things get out of hand, and the shuddering turns to something worse, or you find yourself in a state where suicidal thoughts are circling you, it’s time to take action. Have a talk with a trusted adult and (I’m assuming you’re a minor here) find help. Remember, even if it may not seem like it, there are people who love you and support you and we all want the best for you.

 

[chickentrains]

Are these people at least trying?

It doesn't seem so.

 

[chickentrains]

If things get out of hand, and the shuddering turns to something worse, or you find yourself in a state where suicidal thoughts are circling you, it’s time to take action. Have a talk with a trusted adult and (I’m assuming you’re a minor here) find help. Remember, even if it may not seem like it, there are people who love you and support you and we all want the best for you.

I don't trust anybody.

 

[CHlCKEN]

I don't trust anybody.

I’m so so sorry to hear that. You can trust us, but there’s little we can do to help you directly.

Reach out. Find a friend, a family member, a teacher, a parent, someone, who will be there to help you. You may not know someone who you can trust now, but I really encourage you to reach out and look for someone you can.

 

[chickentrains]

I’m so so sorry to hear that. You can trust us, but there’s little we can do to help you directly.

Reach out. Find a friend, a family member, a teacher, a parent, someone, who will be there to help you. You may not know someone who you can trust now, but I really encourage you to reach out and look for someone you can.

thanks