"Louisiana "La-yers" Peeps"

[bugglesmommy]

There's not a whole lot I have utter disdain for more then two-faced people. I have encountered enough of them in my life to be left paranoid. I can never look at someone and not wonder if they are genuine or genuinely B.S.ing me. I never trust anyone I hear talk about someone behind their back and smile in their face. How a person treats others is a good indicator as to how they treat you. Giving truly honest opinions will hurt feeling sometimes, but people know when you say something good or positive you mean it just as much and you aren't sugar-coating it to make them feel better. Sometimes hurt feelings are the only way to grow as a person or fix something that's wrong.

 

[LemonMeringue]

I'm a December baby as well.

My hubby and I also have December birthdays. We actually were born on the same day, except 4 years apart. This year I will be 40

We decided to get married on the same day so we could have the same anniversary too.

 

[kuntrygirl]

There's not a whole lot I have utter disdain for more then two-faced people. I have encountered enough of them in my life to be left paranoid. I can never look at someone and not wonder if they are genuine or genuinely B.S.ing me. I never trust anyone I hear talk about someone behind their back and smile in their face. How a person treats others is a good indicator as to how they treat you. Giving truly honest opinions will hurt feeling sometimes, but people know when you say something good or positive you mean it just as much and you aren't sugar-coating it to make them feel better. Sometimes hurt feelings are the only way to grow as a person or fix something that's wrong. 

 

[kuntrygirl]

A few year's ago a co-worker came to me and asked me how did her new outfit look. I told her that it didn't look good. She was SOOOO MAD!!! She stomped away. So, she went to another co-worker to tell them what I told her. That co-worker's response was, "Now you know Julie will give you an honest opinion, so you should have never asked her what she thought. So you brought that upon yourself." Needless to say, she has never been back to ask my opinion about her work attire. :/

I don't know but I guess people want you to stroke and "ta ta" them and tell them what they want to hear? Is that how it goes?

 

[LemonMeringue]

There's not a whole lot I have utter disdain for more then two-faced people. I have encountered enough of them in my life to be left paranoid. I can never look at someone and not wonder if they are genuine or genuinely B.S.ing me. I never trust anyone I hear talk about someone behind their back and smile in their face. How a person treats others is a good indicator as to how they treat you. Giving truly honest opinions will hurt feeling sometimes, but people know when you say something good or positive you mean it just as much and you aren't sugar-coating it to make them feel better. Sometimes hurt feelings are the only way to grow as a person or fix something that's wrong.

Frequently people think my sister and I are rude because we say what we really think. She is even more blunt than I am. But if you ask do you like this outfit on me? Do you like our new carpet or the new paint etc...........sometimes people don't like what they hear in response. Why do people feel compelled to just say agreeing opinions instead of what they really think? And why ask if you don't really want the true answer. I do try to be courteous to people even if I do not like them. But my sister just cannot do that, she translates that as being dishonest. Some people would even call us *itch*

 

[kuntrygirl]

 
There's not a whole lot I have utter disdain for more then two-faced people. I have encountered enough of them in my life to be left paranoid. I can never look at someone and not wonder if they are genuine or genuinely B.S.ing me. I never trust anyone I hear talk about someone behind their back and smile in their face. How a person treats others is a good indicator as to how they treat you. Giving truly honest opinions will hurt feeling sometimes, but people know when you say something good or positive you mean it just as much and you aren't sugar-coating it to make them feel better. Sometimes hurt feelings are the only way to grow as a person or fix something that's wrong.

Frequently people think my sister and I are rude because we say what we really think.  She is even more blunt than I am.  But if you ask do you like this outfit on me?  Do you like our new carpet or the new paint etc...........sometimes people don't like what they hear in response.  Why do people feel compelled to just say agreeing opinions instead of what they really think? And why ask if you don't really want the true answer.   I do try to be courteous to people even if I do not like them.  But my sister just cannot do that, she translates that as being dishonest.  Some people would even call us *itch* 

I would rather be around you and your sister than most people. I can deal with the truth but can't deal with people not being honest. If I ask you how does my new hair cut look and you say, it doesn't look good and you prefer the old style, then that person is probably right.

I agree with you, if you ask me my opinion, I'm giving it.

 

[bugglesmommy]

Reminds me of a conversation I had with my hubby at Subway last night. He is an Art Major and Art teacher and one of his students came up and wanted his honest opinion but said she was scared he would be harsh. He said "I'm not harsh." Apparently she had a small notebook in waiting with quotes she wrote down for that exact moment like "That makes me want to claw my eyes out."

Funny thing is that he's as gentle and diplomatic as a lamb compared to any of the college art professors who have and will throw your art out of a 2-story buildings window or pull it apart with a crow bar. A lot of those "brand new adult" (18 and all growed up!

) students who are considering going to college for art actually need a step back from the coddling. There is none after graduation. Now he's not a mean teacher - in fact he's fairly beloved by the students the special ED instructor teacher knows the moon revolves around him because he's so amazing with the special needs students, brought the counselor to tears when she watched him get a very shy (doesn't speak ever student to talk to him in front of the class for an art review, and Monday gave a birthday cake to a very poor student (who ate the whole thing right then and there - can't blame him I baked it and my baking rocks!

) Being honest doesn't make you a b**** or mean person - it just makes your word weight more and some aren't strong enough to hold them.

 

[foreverlearning]

From childhood many people feel the need to feel wanted, liked, and accepted. This leads them to "fudge" the truth to keep from hurting the feelings of others and in turn making those continue to like them. It takes a strong person to always tell the truth and when they do they tend to fall out of what society deems normal. When you are not normal you are not accepted by everyone. When you no longer require the acceptance of others to have a fulfilling life then you no longer understand why it was ever the other way. You cannot fault those that cling to those beliefs because it is their whole world they are trying to cling to, they know no different. A deceitful life may be cruel but it is their cross to bare, we all have one.

 

[bugglesmommy]

From childhood many people feel the need to feel wanted, liked, and accepted. This leads them to "fudge" the truth to keep from hurting the feelings of others and in turn making those continue to like them. It takes a strong person to always tell the truth and when they do they tend to fall out of what society deems normal. When you are not normal you are not accepted by everyone. When you no longer require the acceptance of others to have a fulfilling life then you no longer understand why it was ever the other way. You cannot fault those that cling to those beliefs because it is their whole world they are trying to cling to, they know no different. A deceitful life may be cruel but it is their cross to bare, we all have one.

By the time you become a "crazy chicken lady (or man)", I'm pretty sure you are already out of the whole nasty "Normal" zone. I guess that's why I find so many people I like here!

 

[LemonMeringue]

Reminds me of a conversation I had with my hubby at Subway last night. He is an Art Major and Art teacher and one of his students came up and wanted his honest opinion but said she was scared he would be harsh. He said "I'm not harsh." Apparently she had a small notebook in waiting with quotes she wrote down for that exact moment like "That makes me want to claw my eyes out."

Funny thing is that he's as gentle and diplomatic as a lamb compared to any of the college art professors who have and will throw your art out of a 2-story buildings window or pull it apart with a crow bar. A lot of those "brand new adult" (18 and all growed up!

) students who are considering going to college for art actually need a step back from the coddling. There is none after graduation. Now he's not a mean teacher - in fact he's fairly beloved by the students the special ED instructor teacher knows the moon revolves around him because he's so amazing with the special needs students, brought the counselor to tears when she watched him get a very shy (doesn't speak ever student to talk to him in front of the class for an art review, and Monday gave a birthday cake to a very poor student (who ate the whole thing right then and there - can't blame him I baked it and my baking rocks!

) Being honest doesn't make you a b**** or mean person - it just makes your word weight more and some aren't strong enough to hold them.

I really enjoyed reading this post. You are good people for sure!

And you are right about those "brand new adults". My daughter keeps saying she wants to go to college for art. ((sigh)) I wish there were an assessment test that could tell you if your kid REALLY, REALLY has a decent chance at doing well. I am her parent, soooooo, I am pretty sure my opinion of her art is biased. Lol!