Mad and frustrated at a stupid ad on TV! (RANT!!!)

[WriterofWords]

Ms.FuzzyButts :

My Dh was obviously one of those kids. He freaks out if I decide to cook something that isn't his top choice for that particular day. I grew up under the rule of "Eat or Starve"... And I ain't dead yet.

My first ex-husband was like that. I would have dinner started and he would come in and inform me that his mom was having pork roast for dinner. That meant I was supposed to change whatever I was cooking and magically make a pork roast appear. He'd sit down and look at the fish or chicken or whatever I was cooking and ask "Where's the pork roast?" I'd say "At your mother's house, shut up and eat". It didn't take me long to figure out I was never going to compete with his mom and her pork roast that she made him every single time she wanted to cause trouble or wanted him at her house. She had three boys that liked different things and a hubby who was super picky. She thought I was just awful because I served what I cooked to everyone when they came to dinner, I never once made multiple meals at once and I informed them that they ate what I made or they went home hungry.​

 

[deb1]

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I do the exact same thing! If my kids don't want to eat what I make then they can make a peanut butter sandwich by themselves. I don't force them to eat what I make but I don't cater to them either.

Some parents fill their pantry with very unhealthy food. I am not talking about the occasional splurge but a constant supply of soda and chips. Of course, the kids will fill up on that junk and not eat healthy food.

I was once complimented on how adventuresome my children's eating habits are. My youngest daughter had tried some eel at a local restaurant and our friend was amazed. He said that his ten year old son only ate mac and cheese!

 

[Scoop]

I didn't read all the posts so maybe someone already said what I'm going to.

The kids in those ads are obviously in total control. The only reason they are is because the parents have let them.

 

[easttxchick]

There wasn't much extra money when I was growing up(family of 6 on one income) so the rule at our house was' "if you don't like what's on the table, look under it". No picky eaters in our family!

It's amazing how, when there is no option B at dinner time, option A suddenly doesn't look so bad!

 

[Sunny Side Up]

The food commercials I love to hate are the ones for Lunchables. They prey on a parent's concerns that their children won't be happy, won't be popular, won't like them if they don't give them Lunchables to take to school for lunch. Folks complain about all the waste in the landfills from disposable diapers & water bottles, how about all the packaging from these things? Few people take the time to recycle the cardboard & the plastic. The contents are getting so ridiculous too. I know they're trying to sell them as more nutritious now, but come on, water in a foil pouch?

Before I had children, back when I really was an expert on child raising, I thought I would be one of those Moms who Made Their Children Eat What Was Served Or Else. That worked well with my first son, and I was smug in my success. Then my second son, the Different Drummer, came along. And I eventually decided the food he put in his mouth was not a worthwhile battle. He does make his own cheese or peanut butter sandwiches (and quite well!) and I do insist he eat a variety of items from his very short list of preferred foods. I don't keep junk foods around the house. His pediatrician said that my job was to provide healthy choices & my son's job was to eat them, or not. And as long as he was growing, healthy & energetic there was nothing to worry about.

I frequently offer him new foods but never insist he take a bite. That may work well for you & your children but not for me & this child. If he were visiting you he would decline politely but decidedly any foods he didn't want. If you insisted you would have to physically pry his jaws apart & push the food down his esophagus. He would rather go without than eat something he didn't want. He knows he is among the priviliged few in the world who have the option of refusing good food. And I believe he will eventually outgrow this & widen his preferred menu, either as an ever-hungry adolescent or when he begins courting and wants to please his girlfriend.

 

[Prettiest Frog]

I'm willing to tolerate picky eaters within reason. My nephew has a tendency to request you make him something, and then, when it's done, refuse it and ask for something else. My sister tolerates this. I don't. If he specifically requests something, that is the only thing he will be served.

My son has a few things he won't eat, mostly texture or temperature issues. He doesn't like cold food, not even ice cream. He also doesn't like 'slimy' food, so putting gravy on his meat or mayo on his sandwich is a pretty good way to ensure he won't eat it unless he's allowed to wipe it all off. I'm willing to accommodate those types of minor likes and dislikes, as I'm also willing to accommodate my own similar likes and dislikes, such as preferring my onions chopped really small and preferring my veggies uncooked.

 

[Terri O]

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I like this one! What I find funny here is that we all seem to be of the same opinion...I think that people that raise or have animals are just much more grounded than the folks that dont know that a potato grows UNDER the ground! I did day care for little ones for 17 years. Parents were always amazed when they got the reports of what we ate that week. "I dont know how you got so and so to eat THAT! They would never eat that at home!" My theory always was "make it and they will eat it." It is so funny to listen to my kids now. They are always talking about what their friends wont eat! Terri O in WI...Oh yeah--my youngest (now 18) just adores spinach! Of course I know how to cook it...and grow it!

 

[MuranoFarms]

My kids will eat anything. Of course, they've been offered these food from their first "real" meal.
My DSS however is the worlds pickiest teenager! When he was younger he threw a fit in a restaurant because his chicken nuggets were touching his french fries. When he wasn't immediately given new food...he puked all over his plate. He was promptly given new food on separate plates. He had all the control then and he was never made to try anything he didn't want to. When I met him his diet consisted of chicken nuggets, french fries, spaghetti, hamburgers with only ketchup and junk food. He was a bit heavy.

At age 14 I had to teach him to eat corn on the cob. He has never picked up a piece of fruit and ate it. EVER. He didn't know what to do with the baked potato. He doesn't understand why there are bones in fried chicken, it 'freaks him out'. Has never ate a salad. Won't touch it. This all drives me NUTS!!!!! I make him try everything I make. In the last 3 years, we've found about 20 dishes that he likes, he just never tried before. Chicken broccoli alfredo, chicken parmesan (it's a good think we have chickens

) steak, corn, meatloaf, pot roast, meatball hoagies, etc etc. I've still got a LOT of work to do, but it is coming along. I just feel terrible because though he naturally lost the weight now that he's eating better...he's not growing as he should. I think the lack of nutrition has stunted his growth.

 

[bigstack]

My Dad always said " This is NOT a resturaunt! Eat it or go hungry!" It was that simple. Mom cooked what ever she wanted, when she wanted , and how she wanted. We all ate it! or not, No problem. I hate people who think that catering to their kids wants and not stepping up to be a PARENT is prepearing the kid for the real world! NOT!!!!!!! I had a rough life growing up. I got hit with about everything you can name. BUT, I can honestly say I only got it once, that I didn't deserve. And I was never abused. I only got hit when I did wrong and only enough times to get the point accross! I am honored to say " I have never been arrested, fingerprinted, drove drunk, abused any one else, committed any fellony crimes, or done any drugs. I am now a member of the PTA, Masonic Lodge, Hella Shriners, I work for the Government, aswell as several other community Orgs. I am always looking to help. Every Good thing in my life; I owe to my parents wooping my @$$!!!! Thank God for parents who know how to be parents and not their kids friends. I grew up with alot of people who's parents where their "friends" Those kids did more drugs, drinking, and committed more crimes than I have ever seen on TV! Their parents would always say " My kid trusts me and would come to me if they had any probs." NOT!!! Wake up and live in the real world! I trust, respect, and love my dad. I know I can go to him with anything. He will do everything in his power to help. The friends who had "friends" instead of parents, most are in jail, on drugs, into major crime, or dead! I look around and always wonder why people can't see what they are doing. Why can't you see that being friends and not parents is what has caused this world to become what it is. Whe parets stopped parenting, is when this country started to decline. research it for your self!!!! Whoop that @$$!!! but only when deserved and followed by a good honest heart to heart talk (after the tears stop). lol Parents NEED to be PARENTS!!!

Sorry about the ranting. This is just a sore subject with me. I see all my neices and nephews who are going to grow up to be serial killers or something. I am the only one they respect, talk to, and obey. I have never hit them. BUT, they know I will.

Good luck and God bless!

 

[deb1]

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I am not anti or pro spanking. Occasionally I spanked my own children. But I have known plenty of parents who used other forms of discipline and had wonderful, well behaved children. As long as you are consistent with your discipline and give your child responsibilities, I think that most kids turn out to be productive citizens. And yes, there are plenty of lazy parents who don't even do that much.